PSA for Jewish people who are feeling like Passover is impossible this year: You’re still Jewish when our ritual system fails you, and you’re still Jewish when community isn’t available to you in the way that it should be. It’s not your fault that this is so hard.

Facing barriers is not a personal failure. Not this year, not last year, not ever.

We need to push back against the Jewish observance bootstraps mentality.

Caring about being Jewish does not actually create the ability to conjure community and support out of thin air.

Jewish life looks really different at the margins than it does at the center.

We need to stop conflating being at the center with being serious.

Being Jewishly serious doesn’t get you access to what people at the center have.

Seriousness does not create privilege.

You can only do things that are possible — both physically and psychologically.

Don’t judge yourself by what people at the center are doing. They’re facing dramatically different choices than you are.

Your Jewishness is real and important, whatever that looks like right now.