Men mansplain to me more often than not. Men I love. My own boyfriend.
What I hate about this is I can never call them out. I see the annoyance in their eyes because they don't think it is mansplaining (lol), the few times I have called them out. They think I'm overreacting.

Men I love get upset -- and these are GOOD men. The men in my life are probably some of the bestest I've met. That doesn't mean they're not men though. They are ~usually~ open to feminist critique. But if we can't feel comfortable telling these men how to be better -- do you see?

Do u see where I am going with this?
And again, it's not like my boyfriend or my friends have created an environment where I can't speak to them, but there's years of inequality. I know feminist allies know this already: listen to women. But I mean it truly. Listen, all the time.

And this is why I will always say all men. Because even good ass men are men at the end of the day. They've got unlearning to do and it won't happen in a day. Constantly working on yourself isn't easy. But I want men to push through the annoyance of constantly being told off.

It doesn't make you a bad feminist ally if you mansplained. Just try to figure out when you do so and you can't do this without being called out. So maybe keep the annoyance out of your tone, your eyes. Just swiftly acknowledge, apologise, and move on.

Imagine, I'm asking men to not get annoyed by being called out on mansplaining. Do you men have ANY idea of what it feels like to be mansplained by ALL men ALL your life? That's why tone-policing us is irrelevant, it's definitely not something an ally should do. And yes, all men.

In b4 some chutiya tells me I'm hanging out w the wrong men in my life and mansplains my life to me :)))