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Pay attention to the people who have a calming effect on you. They're your real friends. Bin people who stress you out.
I know people who have friends who regularly upset them, or who they have a history of fighting with. It's no different from an abusive relationship, stop it, you don't have to rely on them.
I know people who feel like they can't turn away because they will feel alone, or ejected from a group, but trust me, it's worth it in the end.
I went through a period in my life where I was constantly trying to win approval from so-called friends, balming myself when one of them was shitty or excluded me. It was never me, some people are just arseholes.
So I did a really tough thing and I vanished tbh. I blocked all of them on social media, and I never spoke to them again. Years later, I have an AMAZING bunch of friends from different circles, who only show me love and compassion.
You're less likely to be able to freely bond with /actual nice people/ if you let yourself be surrounded by dickheads. Free yourself and take a leap of faith.
Why would you even want the company of someone who makes you feel shitty 10, 20 30% of the time? Real friendship isn't like that. Real friendship is like, twice as powerful as romantic love.
Gets real easy after you realise you don't have to deal with it either. Literally, months ago I was told someone I thought was my mate, was chatting shit behind my back - so I just never spoke to them again. Gone, like a fart in the wind.
Bye felicia.
