So what, Onward made me cry when the younger brother had the checklist. That movie hit on a lot of my brother and I growing up. Our dad passed when we were 4 and 3 respectively.

We have a family friend who did a phony pregame show for my dad's fast pitch softball team. He would play the tape for us so we could hear his voice.

We used to meet friends of my dad's from his youth and they would tell us stories about him and we would take mental notes. Just like Ian in the fast food joint and his dad's college buddy.

I can count the number of memories I have of my dad, just like Barley (I have 12). My brother and talk about them 40 years later.

In High School, I was the loud, hard rock listening, nerd stuff obsessed (mine was Star Wars and I knew all of the side and backstories) just like Barley. My brother was reserved and quiet just like Ian.

Just like Ian and his dad's sweatshirt, I still have my dad's ripped softball jacket and it hangs in my closet.

But most of all, and the part that made me cry, I know my dad because my brother and I did all the things that father's and sons normally do but together and without a clue. The checklist got me.