I don’t think it’s an enabler for the abuse itself because I don’t think an abuser weighs the pros and cons of a situation before abusing their victims, but I definitely feel like it’s a domino effect to why people would not speak up if they’ve been victims of abuse, esp. sexual https://twitter.com/mfazomnyama_/status/1247618349141499904

I want to find this thread I read from a university psychologist, I can’t remember it verbatim but she was highlighting things parents should stop saying to their kids under the guise of being helpful or “prevent yourself from being in this situation but if you are then I’m here”

Because what are the chances that your child who finds themselves in this situation you preached them to “prevent” would come to you and openly share their story.
Parents feel like they need to do more to prevent than to actually be informative and it’s quite detrimental

Language is so important, and the effects of it are far greater than we realise when we’re saying things just to get it out of the way cause then “at least I’ve warned my child”. We should be focusing on creating safe spaces rather than giving arbitrary warnings