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Just saw some relationship thread about loving someone regardless of the things they do to you . In my opinion, I felt somethings were wrong with her tweet based on lessons from church and other world renowned counselors .
To prevent a twitter war , I sent her a direct message just to explain that she was not really speaking right and her tweets could go a long way to affect people’s perceptions of relationships and marriage . She thanked me and took down some of the thread .
Basically she was saying that Real love is loving people regardless of their actions. So if they cheat ? love them. If they lie to you ? Love them . If they hurt you ? love them . If they don’t change ? Love them . And stick with them 
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That’s wrong . Yes love is patient and kind but that doesn’t mean love should be taken for granted . Most ladies and some guys are in relationships were they are cheated on and they keep saying I know they cheat but this love you know https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="☺️" title="Smiling face" aria-label="Emoji: Smiling face">...https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤦🏼♀️" title="Woman facepalming (medium light skin tone)" aria-label="Emoji: Woman facepalming (medium light skin tone)">
My parents had to separate in my infant years because some signs and red flags were ignored. Many years on and later life, they admit that they shouldn’t have pursued the relationship. It affected a lot in my life .
My point is simple . The fact that you love someone doesn’t mean you have to be with them . Sometimes you have to let go and let God . Especially when you can . At a relationship stage it’s relatively easier to let go than after marriage and after kids .
Seen some red flags https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🚩" title="Triangular flag on post" aria-label="Emoji: Triangular flag on post">in your r’ship ?You need to weigh and see if this is something you can deal with or compromise with for life . If not , talk to your partner and draw their attention to it . Are they making some effort to change ? Can you overlook it ?
If you can compromise, then stay and do not complain about it . But if you can’t , please have a chat and end things nicely. It’s better to save yourself and future family from the stress of a broken home than to let love lead you to future regrets
And sometimes what is a red flag to you , is a white flag to someone else . So why don’t you allow people to be with people they can truly work things out with , rather than force love ??https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😬" title="Grimacing face" aria-label="Emoji: Grimacing face">
Some hearts can endure a cheating partner , a lying partner etc etc. Some hearts cannot . Even if they endure , trust might never be restored to a https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="💯" title="Hundred points symbol" aria-label="Emoji: Hundred points symbol"> and that sets a tone for many other troubles ,maybe not now but in the future https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤷🏼" title="Person shrugging (medium light skin tone)" aria-label="Emoji: Person shrugging (medium light skin tone)">
So in conclusion? If your partner is not ready to change and you are not ready to compromise, kindly have a good chat and part ways . It doesn’t in any way mean that you don’t love the person . No ! But sometimes you can love people from afar
Love doesn’t always have to be intimate. And oh don’t go too far into a relationship and then you want to back out . That’s what creates the hurt . Cos it’s a relationship, keep it’s simple . Remember, Intimacy(Sex), gifts, etc can affect decisions .
Keep it’s simple , work it out and aim for marriage. If there are too many breakups and conflicts , it may be a sign of a bigger separation at a much bigger stage of life . Thanks for reading . Shalom https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🙏🏽" title="Folded hands (medium skin tone)" aria-label="Emoji: Folded hands (medium skin tone)">
