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I understand that it's way more common for bi/pan people to experience erasure than it is for lesbians but do y'all have any idea how often I get told I "don't count" because I'm not attracted to men? Happens pretty much daily.
Pls understand I'm not trying to compete, it's just frustrating how a lot of people think it's easier for lesbians to feel "valid" in the LGBT community and they conveniently forget all the ways we get dismissed as humans literally everywhere else
Also, unless I talk about it constantly, a lot of people either forget that I'm gay (including my family and closest friends) or they assume I mean bisexual when I tell them I'm gay, so it's not like lesbians don't experience erasure too
Sorry this is about to turn into a rant. I also have people like my sister, who knows I'm gay and is supposedly "accepting" of it - whenever she feels insecure, she yells things like "ugh i look SO ugly. My outfit is gross. I hate my hair. I look like a fucking lesbian".
Or my dad, sometimes my mom will buy him an outfit that he doesn't like, and he says "oh god, why'd you make me look like a lesbian" and my mom cracks up and agrees
Or when that photo of tr*mp's tan line was floating around and people kept commenting on it saying he looks like a british lesbian
I know there is still a lot of weight and negative stereotypes associated with other sexual orientations as well but I don't often see people equate the words bisexual or pansexual with "disgusting"
If you are bi or pan or have experienced attraction to a person of the opposite gender, that means you most likelu HAVE experienced attraction before that didn't make you feel disgusting. Most lesbians have never felt that before and don't know what it feels like to feel love
Without also feeling intense shame towards that love AND intense fear of it.
