Can I just say I’m really grateful for my happy, healthy polyamorous friends who also acknowledge that polyamory can be (and is) weaponized as a tool for abuse because like...

It’s truly, really good to see examples of it working- while also not having my trauma invalidated.

The first time I talked about my own experience publicly, a notable amount of women said they’d been through the same thing- and some VERY vocal poly people were more concerned about the image of polyamory than me or any of those women. —

BUT friends of mine (in healthy polyamorous relationships) jumped in and said that it’s important to know how it’s being weaponized. And seeing healthy examples of those relationships modeled has honestly even helped me recover. I’m just grateful to them.