When I met my bf I didn’t want a relationship I was using lots of drugs, just come out a very unhealthy relationship (mentally/financially abusive)(I wasn’t perfect either some of it was defo my fault) & he was so understanding abt it... (1/?)
(2/?) I told him I wasn’t looking for a relationship & he told me he was moving away soon & didn’t want a relationship either he just wanted to get to know me & hang out & spend time together. So we did we hung out a lot & spent loads of time together
(3/?) eventually when things were heading toward a sexual way for him I told him I didn’t want to & I wanted to wait bc I’d never got to know someone before sleeping w them & I wanted to change that. I’d always slept w ppl then got to know them & he said it was the same for him.
(4/?) he said he’d always slept w ppl then built a relationship around that as well, So we both agreed that we would wait until I was ready (I’d never had this kinda respect before it was UP TO ME FOR ONCE)
(5/?) when we 1st started hanging out he asked me if it was ok if I told him what happened between me & my ex’s dad bc loads of ppl told him I lied abt it (he didn’t even know me that well b4 we met he just ‘knew Of me’ we met like 2x before for 5 mins) so I told him & HE CRIED
(6/?) he felt so bad for even thinking I MIGHT have lied abt it (Tbf when he was 16 he was accused of rape bc he slept w someone that had a bf.. he didn’t know at the time & the next day her bf found out so he made her go to the police.. she told the truth in the end tho)
(7/?) so anyway we didn’t bang for like nearly 2 months (we met in early feb 2018 our 2 year anniversary was 3rd April 2020 ) & we only f**ked shortly before April 2018 & that 1st time we did it he made me cum for the 1st time In my life!!!!! I cried bc It was so OVERWHELMING LOL
(8/?) so anyway after years of letting men do what they wanted to me, me being too scared to say no to something or being black ohh drunk & not remembering anything, me being raped by my friends boss, my ex bf having sex w me even if I said no or manipulating me into it...(cont)