1. Start small. Three hours of independent play isn’t realistic out of the gate, especially for a child who isn’t used to playing on their own. @thefamilycoach recommends going for 5 to 10 minutes at first 🕑
2a. Before your kid can be independent, they need to know you have their back. @larjack1 recommends starting with just 20 minutes of playtime with you. No phones or distractions 🧘🏽‍♀️
2b. When the 20 minutes are up, give them a hug and tell them you loved watching them play, then go do your own thing. Chances are, they’ll keep at what they’re doing ☺️
3. Create an #invitationtoplay. “It’s one of the best tricks of the trade,” says @ParentingJunkie. Put “spotlights” on toys by setting them up in an unexpected way, like three dolls having a tea party, and then let your kids stumble upon them 🍵
4. Make room for mess. You may want to avoid paint, sand, clay, beads or water because they're inconvenient. But, @ParentingJunkie recommends tactile play because it's soothing and will keep them engaged for a long time 🎨
5. Build a movement zone so your kids can use their bodies (read: tire themselves out.) Clear away furniture, then pile in soft things — pillows, cushions, yoga mats, sleeping bags — and let them go wild 🤪
6. Build connection into the independent play so your kids don’t feel like you’re shutting them out. Challenge them to create a piece of art for you, or come up with a surprise for another adult in the home so you stay involved, even if it’s just on the sidelines 👏🏼
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