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I saw a *big* account on here saying something that alarmed me, and sorry if this offends you bc it isn't what you want to hear.
If your mental health causes you to behave in a way that hurts other people, of course you need to apologise.
(a thread)
If your mental health causes you to behave in a way that hurts other people, of course you need to apologise.
(a thread)
To be clear:
Mental illness isn't always beautifully tragic aesthetic and being sad. The symptoms are wildly varied and you are NOT to blame for being ill.
People need to understand that.
But apologising isn't taking blame. It is simply recognising that you've hurt someone.
Mental illness isn't always beautifully tragic aesthetic and being sad. The symptoms are wildly varied and you are NOT to blame for being ill.
People need to understand that.
But apologising isn't taking blame. It is simply recognising that you've hurt someone.
You are not to blame for your illness or what comes from it.
But once your head is in a better place, you are responsible for your recovery.
You cannot control your symptoms whilst in the middle of it, but you can control your response afterwards and what steps you take next.
But once your head is in a better place, you are responsible for your recovery.
You cannot control your symptoms whilst in the middle of it, but you can control your response afterwards and what steps you take next.
A small note to say that this of course only applies to people who are well enough to take all this on after the fact and is more directed at episodic symptoms.
It isn't meant to be directed at people for whom this wouldn't be fair or possible to expect due to their illness.
It isn't meant to be directed at people for whom this wouldn't be fair or possible to expect due to their illness.
The attitude of "it's not my fault so people can just deal with it"...I'm sorry but that's so toxic? For yourself & your friends/family.
You owe yourself treatment & recovery for one thing.
You also can't lash out at people repeatedly & expect them to take it without *trying*
You owe yourself treatment & recovery for one thing.
You also can't lash out at people repeatedly & expect them to take it without *trying*
One of my symptoms is emotional instability incl anger etc.
I can't really control that.
What I can control - to an extent - is how those feelings cause me to act and how I treat people around me. How I communicate with them. It isn't easy. I don't always get it right.
I can't really control that.
What I can control - to an extent - is how those feelings cause me to act and how I treat people around me. How I communicate with them. It isn't easy. I don't always get it right.
But the point is that I try.
I've acted horribly in the past.
Trust me when I tell you that enabling this behaviour and absolving yourself of any and all responsibility from it will NOT help you. It will only make things worse.
But absolutely be compassionate to yourself.
I've acted horribly in the past.
Trust me when I tell you that enabling this behaviour and absolving yourself of any and all responsibility from it will NOT help you. It will only make things worse.
But absolutely be compassionate to yourself.
You can't get it right every time and you can't be perfect. Anyone that expects you to doesn't get it.
But if you aren't even willing to try then you can't expect them to sit and accept it either.
But if you aren't even willing to try then you can't expect them to sit and accept it either.
