Although I disagree with her take on “babies ruining relationships” I do encourage every single woman out there to live their best life and absolutely NOT have anybody’s babies without that ring.
I had a baby w/o the ring and it signifies a lot more than someone being “cuffing material.” It’s literally the determinant of a solid foundation, a commitment to that person and your children. A deciding factor in whether or not your child will have both parents present.
Yes, there are fathers who are present in their kids’ lives without being married to their mother. But the goal is to be more than just somebody’s baby mama and scattering more children without wedlock.
So ladies, don’t let these bums tie you down with a baby. Yes babies are amazing and the most rewarding love there is. But while you’re working and being a full time parent, he’s going to still be doing him and you don’t need that instability in your lives.
And honestly I don’t know why I put the focus on the ladies. This goes for men, too. I’ve had far TOO many of my guy friends get tied down with unwanted babies/multiple bms. Stop putting YOUR SEED, something so VALUABLE, in women you don’t want children with! like tf!
Because then y’all complain about having multiple kids/having to be a father/having to provide/“being trapped” when in the grand scheme of things.. Y’all are the decision makers. Y’all are the ones who get to decide who gets pregnant and who doesn’t. 🤷🏻‍♀️
So yes, those of you who don’t have kids.. don’t have them just yet. There is no rush. Find you somebody you see a future with and build that foundation. There’s people out there that still want a commitment and a family.
And those of us who already have kids, let’s use our experiences to make better decisions and the next go around will be what we expect it to be.
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