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I’m about to go on a rant about self love and the fact that words do hurt.
First things first somebody telling you that you’re beautiful and knowing you’re beautiful yourself are two different things.
There’s been plenty of occasions where I’ve been called ugly, too dark, not cute, burnt and etc. Even by family. School was the worst for me. Back then I dreaded looking into the mirror because I hated what I saw.
On top of me being dark skin I was also born with a deformity called “lop ear” which means I didn’t have cartilage in my ear so they folded down instead of standing up like most people’s would. Those two things made school HELL for me because I’m extremely sensitive as is.
One of my biggest regrets til this day was letting people get me to the point where I had cosmetic surgery to “correct” something that made me unique. But back then? I dreaded going to school because of it. I’d get suspended and fight taking up for myself all the time. Tiring.
After the surgery I felt no better. People still found things to nit pick on. So I felt like I’d taken 500 steps backward. I’ve had to let go of “friends” because of snide comments too.
For example. A old “friend” of mine who was in fact light skin would down me all the time. Calling me blackie, night crawler, everything under the moon you could think of to degrade darker toned black women. I got sick of it one day and I beat her ass. Never spoke to her again.
The whole point of this thread was to really say that you need to love and accept yourself. You have to live with YOU at the end of the day. Learn to accept all flaws. They might not even be flaws in reality. Don’t let the world get to you like it got to me.
Bullying isn’t cool even if you think you’re joking around with that person. It has a huge negative effect on a person right then and there and in the long run. Be nice to people I cannot stress that enough.
