Dear women

"Your problem is that you never ask serious questions. You focus too much on a Man's fun side. So when emergencies happen you get the shock of your life because these men you keep on dating are not reliable & you would've known that early in the relationship... https://twitter.com/akreana_/status/1081598051322679297

but akere wena you avoid deep conversations, you avoid politics, You avoid religion, you avoid marriage, you avoid gamily, you avoid economics. You never asked for his opinion on domestic violence. Never asked for his opinion on feminism..

Never asked for his opinion on single parenthood, co-parenting, cohabitation. So when things go south, these men don't even know how to conduct themselves because you chose them based on their fun side. You never bother to check if they have a serious side...

Right now you have a child & the guy is too childish to even care. Right now you have a financial crisis & your boyfriend is too selfish to help. Right now you need advice & your boyfriend doesn't have that mind or personality.

These are the things you would've known if you studied his Personality, studied his mindset. Got into deep discussions. But you were too concerned with being the "Cool Girlfriend". You were too concerned with his Face, too concerned with his style that you couldn't look past..

the fact that a man needs to have a serious side. A man that's always laid back, always chilling, always avoiding reality, only worried about the things that happen in the bubble he lives in, Is not fit enough to be a life partner. Not fit to be a Father.

Such men remain childish their whole lives & it's not their job to tell you that. You as a woman need to recognize that on your own. Always check if a guy has a serious side. A lot of women are too concerned with the fun & then when shit hits the fan they run"