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During this #COVID crisis, I am rereading for the 10th time
Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Move Forward by @DrHenryCloud
This thread is dedicated to all those who are forced into difficult decisions:
Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Move Forward by @DrHenryCloud
This thread is dedicated to all those who are forced into difficult decisions:
"Without the ability to end things, people stay stuck, never becoming who they are meant to be, never accomplishing all that their talents and abilities should afford them."
"In many contexts, until we let go of what is not good, we will never find something that is good. The lesson: good cannot begin until bad ends."
"Being alive requires that we sometimes kill off things in which we were once invested, uproot what we previously nurtured, and tear down what we built for an earlier time. Refraining, giving up, throwing away, tearing down, hating what we once cherishedâall are necessary."
"Rosebushes & other plants produce more buds than the plant can sustain. The plant has enough life & resources to feed and nurture only so many buds to their full potential...In order for the bush to thrive, a certain number of buds have to go."
"The areas of your business and life that require your limited resourcesâyour time, energy, talent, emotions, moneyâbut are not achieving the vision you have for them should be pruned."
"Sometimes, the best thing a leader or anyone else can do is to give up hope in what they are currently trying."
"Life cycles and seasons are built into the nature of everything. When we accept that as a fundamental truth, we can align our actions with our feelings, our beliefs with our behaviors, to accept how things are, even when they die."
"if you are not making moves to end the dull misery of something going nowhere, then you may have told yourself nothing is really âwrongââit is just the way it is. You are stuck with a chronic ache that has started to feel like the new normal."
"if your [mental] map says that you are responsible for other adults as if they were your children, then something is wrong with your map, and no doubt some well-needed endings are not taking place."
"hopelessness can bring us closer to fearlessness, as it does not take courage to stop doing what you know is not going to work."
"So hope is good and requires time as part of its equation. But . . . that is also the problem: Hope buys time, and spends it."
"False hope buys us more time to spend on something that is not going to work and keeps us from seeing the reality that is at once our biggest problem and our greatest opportunity."
"The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it."
"you were not designed to cope but to thrive. But just like a rosebush, you canât thrive without pruning, which means your necessary endings truly are urgent."
"Make your heart and mind feel the reality today that is surely coming tomorrow."
"you have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right thing. If you canât, you are stuck."
"When you feel grief, you are saying, âI am looking this reality right in the face and dealing with it, the reality that this [whatever this is] is over. Finished. Grief also means I am getting ready for what is next because I am finishing what is over.""
"If you are doing anything that by definition cannot continue because the source itself is being depleted or damaged, an ending is not only necessary, it is vital and urgent."
