i just want to address one point. this is untrue. this is not even remotely what happened, or how it went down. i’m absolutely fine if anyone wants to unfollow/block me because of my now (ex-)association with dom, but andrew is STILL misrepresenting the facts here.

i know these things are a matter of hearsay and whoever you hear from first is who you’re most likely to believe, more than anything. but, andrew is using this dom situation in such a fucked up way. but i have receipts to prove just about everything:

the whole thing started with andrew dm’ing me begging me to help him save face because people were unfollowing him because they found out the truth about what happened between him and rowdyruffgirls (rrg).

there are already DOZENS of receipts here.

https://twitter.com/queersocialism/status/1050607990888325121?s=21 https://twitter.com/queersocialism/status/1050607990888325121

months prior, andrew told us all a fabricated, one sided story, about how RRF, a trans woman of color, abused him years ago. i still don’t know the full extent of what went down.

but, i do know that andrew left out really important and nuanced details about the entire situation because he wanted to deplatform RRF and have her disposed of for whatever reason.

and we followed suit w/o any proof beyond what HE said, because we believe survivors first and foremost. even folks who were good friends with RRF, believed him over all else. a lot of us (soft)blocked her, unfollowed, instantly when we heard.

rowdyruffgirls wrote a response (i think in a medium article or thread, i can’t find because she deactivated but i’m asking around to some folks who know her offline)

where she provided receipts of how andrew left out excruciatingly CRUCIAL details to make the situation worse than what it actually was and to turn folks against her at all costs (again, for whatever reason? idk why.)

then, andrew started losing followers and people started blacklisting him, not retweeting him, and he had a whole breakdown because he was absolutely obsessed with this twitter shit.

andrew came to me via dm at first (at the time i did not know yet about the RRF thread/article proving the facts) and he literally wanted me to dm the people, largely twoc, and practically beg them to continue being his friend. he wanted me to massage his relationships.

i was uncomfortable with it. (you can see we’re in imessage now b/c i stopped replying via dm & he messaged me, thankfully, because i can’t access our dms anymore). but you can see in the beginning, me tryna downplay the extent of people mad at him. i didn’t know!

then, he misgendered/deadnamed RRF & said some weird transmisogynistic things. & i became, again, increasingly uncomfortable. i corrected him & told him that wasn’t okay. & he absolutely refused to realize the extent to which he put me in weird position until i stopped responding

our entire relationship, up until that point (we had known each other for 2-3 years) consisted of him almost constantly fucking up, saying some fucked up shit, blowing up at me, then apologizing later & weaponizing his disability/jewish identity to justify all of his wrongdoings.

andrew would do shit like this to me CONSTANTLY where he’d fuck up and try and go back and massage/manipulate situations.

again this is before he told me about the claim against espi, and before i read/heard about how he LIED about his side of the rowdyruffgirls situation

even up to that point, i had no intentions on “cancelling” him, despite what he has told other people. if i feel like you’re capable of learning & evolving, i’ll call you in & we’ll correct the behavior. just as folks in my community have done w/ me. https://twitter.com/queersocialism/status/1050614906687381505?s=21

but, i asked for space. and when i asked that, he utterly refused to stop texting me. he sent me DOZENS of messages, even after i asked for space. DOZENS.

doing the same thing he always does. talking vaguely about suicide. making himself seem unstable (and maybe he was? idk) to guilt me to continue talking to him in that moment. it was so fucked up and gross. I AM BEGGING YOU READ THRU THESE MSGS CLOSELY. https://twitter.com/queersocialism/status/1050610740510388226?s=21 https://twitter.com/queersocialism/status/1050610740510388226

but i ended up reaching out to others who knew him to see how i should handle this and i found out he was doing the SAME EXACT SHIT to countless other people. i heard relatable stories of him guilting people. lying. being anti-black and an undercover zionist.

he also dated a zionist for a year recently, and swore he didn’t know, which okay, maybe he didn’t. but he was heading a fucking antizionist justice for palestinians and jews organization, how do not fucking know your boyfriend is goddamn zionist?

receipts of me calling him in on all the things i had an issue w/&asking for space & up until this point i *still* didn’t know about the espi thing. from the beginning, he was begging me to convince her to forgive him for lying about rowdyruffgirls.

pls read the messages closely

receipts of andrew flat-out lying, calling me “ableist” for asking for space, trying to guilt me into continuing to talk to him, admitting to somehow not knowing his ex is a zionist, and STILL trying to get me to “mend” his broken relationships w/other ppl re:lying/bigotry/abuse

the whole time, andrew is doing all this apologizing to me. he’s talking to da’shaun, and others i don’t want to bring into this and telling them entirely different things and trying to manipulate the situation—which is how i knew his apologies were disingenuous.

here’s da’shaun’s message to andrew.

once again, proving our wanting space/not wanting to talk to andrew was not because we didn’t “believe he was abused by espi,” HE STILL HADN’T TOLD US. how can we not believe something we *STILL* didn’t know about, up until this point?

this was all in a matter of minutes.

(the sexual assault mention in the first screenshot was not about espi, but another person i don’t know, apparently, that i again had no idea about until he mentioned in that moment.)

cw: suicide/manipulation

all he cared about in this moment was that other people were corroborating and comparing their experiences with him. despite the fact that we still had no intentions on bringing this to twitter, until he made the most serious allegation.

i heard fucking horror stories about ppls interactions w/him being anti-black, shitting on black women/trans women, and being super aggressive & defensive w/palestinians. & it lined up w/ stuff i experienced w/ him. i’ve called him in before wrt anti-blackness. so, i believed it.

people of varying identities, followings told me fucking horror stories about their interactions with him, including people he had in his organization. and that changed it for me because it was repeated gross/abusive/racist/transmisogynistic behavior.

and when i was planning on telling him that i no longer wanted to be friends, after everything that was already said and done, he tells me about how espi abused him. this was after everything that we had learned.

he had never mentioned it up until that point. and he had a habit oversharing traumatic happenings and trauma spilling without asking me first—despite the fact, i never had that type of relationship with him, i never felt comfortable spilling my guts to him

and he never provided the space for me to do so. it was all one sided. he would dump all types of shit on me and never once even asked me as so much of “are you okay with me telling me this rn?”

but again, him telling me specifically that espi, who is YET another twoc, happened after everything had already come out. he was talking to other people & realized they didn’t want anything to do w/him and just spilled that out of nowhere?

and then spinned it as we were the big bad bullies who bullied/“disposed of” the victim of assault, despite the fact, he informed us, me specifically (idk the exact timeline for everyone else), after EVERY fucked up thing that he had said/done and i was done.