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Love, Andile

For privacy purposes I'm not going to use his real name. We will call him Lethu. A dude from Queenstown, very traditional, beautiful, stubborn & uneducated about love language concepts, the LGBTQIA+ community & expressing love without expecting nothing in return.

We met in December for what was supposed to be a 1 month contract. I was not even fazed nor moved by his presence. If anything, I wanted to get through the month & move on & here he was, so kind, meek & quiet.

We built a friendship. It started with sharing lunchtimes, to sharing our lunch. He started listening to everything I said & would do it. This got us really close & we started sharing personal things. That's my deepest weakness ke bantase

He showed interest in my lifestyle & we started getting really close....before anything could happen the contract ended . We parted ways. We kept in contact though & spoke on WhatsApp most of the time until my phone broke down. I went MIA from early Jan until 2 weeks ago.

The whole entire time I missed him so much. The time apart was dreadful. I mean, who was he talking to, calling all the time, texting, etc. I needed to find a way mntasekhaya...and a way I did. Took my nephew's phone & added his number on WhatsApp & we started talking again

We were then called & offered a permanent position at the place we worked in. I remember how excited we were. He called me screaming share his news & little did he know that I got the call too. We started planning outfits for when we sign the contract & all that. I was ready

So that happened & we were so excited. After signing the contract we went outt for a couple of beers together. We had a deep conversation about how close we have become & what it meant to him. Hearing him speak was refreshing. Ndaqonda iCatch(ile) iBouy

Hai ke the games began. Saqala emsebenzini. We were staffed on the same shifts, lunch the same time, even went to shop for work clothes together. Ndithi kwavele kamnandi maan. We would talk on the phone for hours uninterrupted until midnight &I knew seka daa

You might ask where was his partner the whole entire time. Truth is, I couldn't be bothered. I mean, if he is giving me all this attention then who cares ukuba uphi baby wakhe? Anyways,

There was one problem though, I wasnt romantically attracted to him, still not but the way things were going there was bound to be something happening...not here for that though so yeah. These past couple of weeks became intense; very intense so much that I ended up getting a...

Telkom simcard because that's what he uses. We drew a timetable for calls, came up with call/text competitions, anything that will get us even closer than we were. Of course it was my idea. Y

Just last month we started sharing finances. I gave him my card to do some grocery shopping for me on his lunchtime at Woolies & I will finish the rest on mine. He forgot my pin & used his card to pay for the bill. It was R832.60. When I asked him how much I owed him he said...

Don't worry about it. Looked at the slip & I said yho. I haven't paid it back. When I went to finish the rest of my shopping I bought him his fave snacks & he was so pissed. He even transferred me more money for compensation. I didnt get why he would do that, still don't.

So I kept my money. We spoke on the phone on Friday ke because he saw I was getting lit & he shouted at me & ORDERED me to STOP drinking. Asked me to send him my current bank balance & said if I withdraw any money for alcohol sizoxabana.

Here I was thinking why is he acting like my dad or bf? He called again izolo ke & we spoke for over an hour, with most of that being him shouting at me for using R80 to buy some nguduz. Ndithetha nani he transferred another R100. Never have I ever been this confused

He is a cool oke nhe but I'm not attracted to him like that. Do I sit him down and explain that to him or ndivele ndimyeke? Cause I don't want him to get hurt or spoil our friendship but hey, kushubile...

Please advise.

Oh, I almost forgot. A couple of weeks back I sent him R1k to buy some stuff because he called me saying he was bored. I hope he is not "repaying" that money cause I don't want it back nami yazi. It was a gesture for a special friend.

The End.

Love, Andile.