Men, if you are frustrated in a courtship because you don’t feel equal “effort” from the woman, there’s a possibility you’re hitting a wall because you’ve gotten all that you can get from courtship with her - it SHOULD sting. You shouldn’t feel completely fulfilled in courtship.

If you become or try to become completely fulfilled in courtship, you will lose the desire and even urgency to marry.

A woman that knows this, will make it very clear that she will not step out of position to stroke your carnal ego.

As a man, by nature, you will want more from her - more attention, emotional pouring, affection, and ESPECIALLY physical touch.

You will become frustrated thinking it’s her when it COULD be that you are just dealing with a God-placed boundary.

When you commit to covenant & marry a woman, you receive favor from God and a reward for the work you spent those months pursuing her - her time, her name, love, body, affection, and her womb.

These are not things to take lightly. Marriage is a MAJOR promotion.

Now Im not insinuating that a woman should sit like a brick wall throughout an entire courtship but she doesn’t need to be pursuing you or giving you rewards everytime you pursue her - that’s not how courtship works.

You want major rewards from your woman for your pursuit as a man when that’s what you’re supposed to be doing

AND

If you don’t follow through with putting a ring on it + getting her to the altar, you will ALWAYS be dissatisfied in courtship.

Furthermore, ladies....

It’s NOT a man’s responsibility to pay your bills or rent when he ain’t your husband. There is also such a thing as HUSBAND privileges. So men, you should be putting up a strong pursuit but you don’t need to put your life out on the line.