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To a woman, a relationship is like a house. The foundation is his commitment, the walls are his self-respect (not hers), and the roof is his provisioning.
As she tries to make this house a home, adding beauty and softness and things that need care...
As she tries to make this house a home, adding beauty and softness and things that need care...
... she will never stop testing the strength of these walls.
But don't expect her to see see beyond these walls. Everything that happens to her is a sign of either safety or danger. Every reaction instills either trust or fear.
Nature selected for this trait in females..
But don't expect her to see see beyond these walls. Everything that happens to her is a sign of either safety or danger. Every reaction instills either trust or fear.
Nature selected for this trait in females..
...so she can fulfill her biological imperative of finding a safe place for our babies to grow. Don't get mad at it.
Recognize that even "Do I look fat in these jeans" is about survival.
In fact, if she's testing you, it means she's choosing to live inside your house...
Recognize that even "Do I look fat in these jeans" is about survival.
In fact, if she's testing you, it means she's choosing to live inside your house...
..she's granting you permission to create for her the boundaries of her emotionality, the space that her frailty (and the frailty of her babies) will live within.
Don't hate these tests. Don't bitch about these tests. It's an honor. But don't fuck them up either...
Don't hate these tests. Don't bitch about these tests. It's an honor. But don't fuck them up either...
Responding with logic shows you're blind to the dance.
Responding with emotion shows you're unsafe, because you're adding to HER emotional burden.
Hold that frame. Everything she's feeling is temporary. It's kind of amusing. It's cute. Beautiful even. And remember...
Responding with emotion shows you're unsafe, because you're adding to HER emotional burden.
Hold that frame. Everything she's feeling is temporary. It's kind of amusing. It's cute. Beautiful even. And remember...
... what James Brown said:
"This is a man's world. This is a man's world.
But it wouldn't be nothing, nothing, without a woman or a girl".
"This is a man's world. This is a man's world.
But it wouldn't be nothing, nothing, without a woman or a girl".
