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When men hit you with that "I'm looking for a friends with benefits and we'll see where it goes," it's a cop-out.
They want commitment to you sexually first and then they'll have you staying around for months, waiting for romantic commitment.
They want commitment to you sexually first and then they'll have you staying around for months, waiting for romantic commitment.
Fucking a man with a fear of commitment is just horrible if you want a relationship. What seems lighthearted and easy is actually complicated and stressful.
Lighthearted and easy for who?
Settling for a romantic grey area.
Lighthearted and easy for who?
Settling for a romantic grey area.
I find it weird that men bargain with women this way, implying that the woman has to open her legs first (and several times after) in order to get him to CONSIDER committing to her.
And they'll have other friends with benefits hoping for the same.
This is the new courting.
And they'll have other friends with benefits hoping for the same.
This is the new courting.
He calls you baby, his friends know about you (probably more than you want them to know) his dog likes you, you let him spit in your mouth, the two of you have deep conversations, amazing sex, the "chemistry" is there and he's still fucking other women.
Eventually, a woman wonders, "What are we?" It's a gamble asking him because he might dump you once he sees you're attached and invested. He may not answer. He may bring you back to the first agreement, "I like what we are now."
Was he ever interested in a relationship?
Was he ever interested in a relationship?
Now, he might just go exclusive with you, but you had to ask after you've done everything he asked for sexually.
Now imagine dating 5 years and having to ask if he'll eventually marry you.
Now imagine dating 5 years and having to ask if he'll eventually marry you.
The craziest part of all of this is that commitment-phobic men still want sex. They'll get it somehow.
They're good at this, leading women on and getting [raw] sex out of it the entire time.
If they catch feelings, they'll run and you'll chase.
They're good at this, leading women on and getting [raw] sex out of it the entire time.
If they catch feelings, they'll run and you'll chase.
And as usual, it's not like men don't judge women. It's cool when they can get some ass out of it, but the fact that you slept with him so easily might be the dealbreaker that you never knew about.
That may very well be the reason why he won't claim you as a girlfriend.
That may very well be the reason why he won't claim you as a girlfriend.
Worst scenario, he cuts you off, claims someone else in ways you wanted to be claimed and your heart is broken by someone you never had.
Now his fear of commitment becomes yours because you were with someone who was never committed to you.
Yikes.
Now his fear of commitment becomes yours because you were with someone who was never committed to you.
Yikes.
