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I see a lot of tweets about how to ignore your ex when you get the guaranteed “I’m sorry I fucked you over” tweet. But quick question for a few of y’all, which is more likely:
option a: your ex texts you a paragraphs long apology. they’re so sorry for how they treated you. They’ve been seeing a therapist & learning a lot & now, they’re working to be a better person. If you want to give it another go, great. But if you don’t, they completely understand.
or option b: your ex, who was a narcissist is still that & still just as problematic. they’re never gonna text you an apology bc 1. they don’t think they did anything wrong & 2. they’re probably ignoring the things they did to you & making someone else feel as crazy as you felt.
Which of those two options is most likely from someone who lied to you until you felt you were crazy? Whose teeth you had to pull to get an apology you had to put in their mouth?
I get it. I get wanting the person who gaslit you to high hell to finally come clean and say “yeah I fucked up”. But it will likely never happen. I’ve never met a narcissist that believed they’d done anything wrong.
And even if they DID apologize. What would it do? Would the harm and abuse you faced suddenly be washed away?
Or would you be thrown into a loop of second guessing why they apologized in the first place?
Heal. Take this time to heal. No, they are not sorry. No, they do not see the error of their ways. And the most painful: no, they aren’t gonna reach out.
If you see this thread, whether you accept it to be true or not, know this: you are deserving of a love you don’t have to beg for. You’re deserving of a partner that sees your worth without you having to make them.
