i swear if i keep seeing yt ppl talk about b*/p*n lesbians i’m gonna fucking snap. i didn’t force myself to try to like guys because i thought not liking them meant something was wrong with me. i didn’t keep my sexuality hidden from my family bc i thought they’d think i was +
broken for not liking men. i had one cis boyfriend in my lifetime and the one time we hung out at his place all he wanted was s*x and honestly, that made everything even worse. i was already dating him because i thought i HAD to be attracted to men and when it got to that point +
it really solidified that i wasn’t attracted to men but even then when i came out to my homophobic brother and he said that me being a lesbian was a “choice” i tried to force myself to be attracted to one of my best male friends (who is a sex addict so every conversation w him +
was just, when would date/f*ck) and it wasn’t until last year that i finally let go of that fucking toxic mindset and accepted the fact that i’m not attracted to men at all. the whole b*/p*n lesbian discourse is literally biphobic, panphobic, and lesbophobic. it erases all three+
identities that we’ve fought to have. that also makes way for m*n to try and make advances on LESBIANS. it reinforces comphet and says that lesbians can be attracted to m*n. we can’t be. it’s as simple as that. we are not attracted to men in any way shape or form and people need+
to get that through their fucking heads. every time i see that discourse it makes me sick to my stomach. it’s literally toxic and actual lesbians that don’t know they’re lesbians — if they see this discourse — will think it’s okay, that even lesbians like m*n. we don’t. if i had+
seen this while i was still struggling with my identity, i wouldn’t have known how to identify. this is dangerous discourse and it needs to stop