Thread by @ASassyMermaid, Things that should make you run for the hills in a relationship: [...]

Things that should make you run for the hills in a relationship: a thread.

If you tell your partner something they are doing make yours uncomfortable, and they turn it around on you.... run.

This is within reason, but also trust your gut!

If your partner doesn’t do the “little” things you want/need from the beginning, they won’t randomly start after a year.

Have hard conversations while dating!!!!!! How do they expect having children to go.

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If your partner constantly wants to do things that make you uncomfortable/doesn’t bring you joy, it’s probably best to walk away.

For example, if you partner wants to constantly black out drunk and put themselves in danger and it makes you uncomfortable.... leave.

It is SUPER important to NEVER EVER think you can change someone. You cannot change anyone, no matter what. They can choose to change but you can’t make them.

If they make you feel guilty for wanting to hang out with your friends, NOPE. LEAVE.

Know your worth. Love yourself. It is incredibly hard to be in a healthy relationship with someone else when you aren’t in one with yourself.

Unfortunately, there are people out there who will take advantage of that.

If your partner doesn’t want to understand/learn your love language, just walk away. The relationship will never be fulfilling if you aren’t loved in the way you need.

If your partner doesn’t match your ~CORE~ beliefs, it’s not going to work out. There are lots of things that you can agree to disagree on, but the ones that make you who you are? Nope. It’ll just lead to resentment.

My mom has always told me dating is the easiest part of a relationship. If you are constantly fighting, crying, and feeling insecure, it’s not going to get better because you have a ring on your hand or a child.

If you can’t be honest with your partner because you’re afraid how they’re going to react.... yeah no. You should ALWAYS be able to share your thoughts and feelings without fear. No matter what type of relationship

If your partner threatens you, leave. No exceptions.

Threatening isn’t always violent either. Threatening to make you miserable, withhold love/affection, to leave you.... this is not healthy, it’s manipulation. You deserve better.

If your partner wants you to choose between something you love (like a job, hobby, etc) and them.... it’s probably a no go.

Now if it’s something like drugs, excessive alcohol consumption, etc... they’re probably just looking out for your best interests.

The words “I love you” should never be used as a weapon. By anyone. Ever.

Playful fighting/wrestling can be a fun part of any relationship. However, if your partner does things that scare you (choking you and not stopping, making you panic, etc), That is not playful. Have a discussion with them about your boundaries. If they don’t respect them, leave

You should never fear for your safety with your partner.

If you are afraid of your partner, please reach out to people around you for help.

You never have to apologize for your past. You never have to justify your anxiety, depression, trauma... never. Your partner should love you through it. Help you overcome, not make it worse.

You are not your partner’s ex. You don’t deserve to be punished for what they did. There is a HUGE difference between being understanding of insecurities they have because of past relationships and being controlled by it.

If you are controlling your partner because of issues your ex caused, please go to therapy. You need to learn how to escape your ex’s shadow in a healthy way without harming your new partner.

Know yourself. If you KNOW you’re not in a healthy place, you don’t need to be in a relationship. You need to be in therapy to find a healthy, stable place for yourself. It is 100% okay to be single to work on yourself.

If you’re a single parent... your partner should treat your child with respect and love. If they don’t like kids, walk away. If they treat your child like a burden... walk away. If they make you feel guilty for being a single parent, WALK AWAY.

There is NO ONE on this earth that should have the power to make you feel unloved, unworthy, or like you aren’t enough. You deserve someone who loves you where you are, not where they want you to be.

Also keep in mind, no one is perfect.. these are just things I have seen turn out in super toxic situations. You should ALWAYS have open communication and understanding in a relationship. Discuss what is bothering you!!!!! Always!!!!!

If your partners friends and family don’t like you, it’s one of two things... 1. You’re insane or 2. They way they’re talking about you when you aren’t around.

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