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Tip from experience: if someone tells you that they raped or otherwise sexually assaulted someone in the past "but they've changed now", it's probably best to just leave them.

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This happened with my ex. They told me that like ten years ago, they used to masturbate in front of women against their will and once removed a condom without a partner knowing (which is rape). I should have left them then.

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They were so manipulative about it, and although they never physically harmed me, they did end up sexually abusing me by doing stuff like showing their boyfriend sexually explicit texts I'd sent them and including other people in online play without my consent.

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Then they got super mad at me for telling people that they'd raped and sexually abused people when we broke up, because "that was private" or something.

I'm not saying people shouldn't change or even get second chances. But if someone admits to abusive behaviour, there's a good chance they'll do it to you too.

YOU don't have to be anyone's second chance. You don't have to put yourself at risk for their reform.