True story: my abusive ex used to yell at me for not arguing with him. This was before things got physical. I’d just sit there and cry when he got angry. “Look at you, don’t even take up for yourself.” Once he said that? Oh bitch. NIGGA HERE NOW.

And since then, I’ve been trying to process my anger in a healthy way because the worse the abuse got, the angrier and more violent I got. Now I try very hard to check myself because he turned me into a monster.

In my last relationship, I had to acknowledge that I was being abusive to him in some ways. I realized that I was just being unnecessarily mean sometimes. Told him and apologized because I let my PTSD make me the person who hurt me.