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BismiLlaah,
So here's a thread (a bit long) on porn addiction recovery and resources that can help you.
I'm doing this because I know for some this period can be hard & LONELY when struggling with an addiction. At some point, I'll be focusing on women's (recovery journeys)
So here's a thread (a bit long) on porn addiction recovery and resources that can help you.
I'm doing this because I know for some this period can be hard & LONELY when struggling with an addiction. At some point, I'll be focusing on women's (recovery journeys)
I know this is a taboo topic and nobody likes to talk about it. But I really think we should. For one, it's a public health crisis. Please read that again. A PUBLIC HEALTH CRISIS
This means that it's big enough of a concern to affect people's behaviours and psychological health
This means that it's big enough of a concern to affect people's behaviours and psychological health
Also, I believe that when talking about addiction, we don't do so with compassion and emphasis on what matters most in recovery - connection, a support system and love. In short, a community.
I understand that not everyone agrees with my position and I would like to ask that you kindly stay off my thread. Thank you 
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Alright, onto it.
So chances are that you've tried to stop watching porn and you've relapsed. It might have intensified with the quarantine. And Ramadan is around the corner. So what do you do?
So chances are that you've tried to stop watching porn and you've relapsed. It might have intensified with the quarantine. And Ramadan is around the corner. So what do you do?
1. You need to see the problem wholly for what it is.
An addiction.
& one that you're helpless to. (Because if you had power over it, you'd have stopped).
You need to admit that this is an addiction and something beyond your control
An addiction.
& one that you're helpless to. (Because if you had power over it, you'd have stopped).
You need to admit that this is an addiction and something beyond your control
2. Tell someone.
Really, hear me out. This is one of the difficult aspects.
People around, no matter how loving & good intentioned they might be might just not understand. Sometimes this might be the case, but not all the time.
I'm asking you, is your shame the culprit here?
Really, hear me out. This is one of the difficult aspects.
People around, no matter how loving & good intentioned they might be might just not understand. Sometimes this might be the case, but not all the time.
I'm asking you, is your shame the culprit here?
Are you actually sure people around won't understand? Look closely? Parents? Siblings? Cousins? Aunts/Uncles? Mentors? Friends???
You'd be surprised.
THERE IS A CULTURE OF SHAME SURROUNDING PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY.
Please repeat that as many times as you need to hear it.
You'd be surprised.
THERE IS A CULTURE OF SHAME SURROUNDING PORN ADDICTION RECOVERY.
Please repeat that as many times as you need to hear it.
Here is a handy article I'll link below on how to speak to your loved ones about an addiction. It's a conversation blueprint that helps you build how to break the news to a loved one & seek their love & support in recovery. https://fightthenewdrug.org/lets-talk-about-porn/
3. Seek an accountability partner
An accountability partner is invaluable in your journey. I can't stress this enough. A lot of people believe they might not be able to find one.
An accountability partner is invaluable in your journey. I can't stress this enough. A lot of people believe they might not be able to find one.
I'll try to make it easier for you by linking subreddits where you can request for one. Please note that you'll need to join Reddit for this.
i. NoFap (everyone welcome) https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
ii. NoFap Teens https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFapTeens?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
i. NoFap (everyone welcome) https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
ii. NoFap Teens https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFapTeens?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
Apart from seeking accountability partners, it's a place you can go to feel less lonely.
4. Sponsors
What is a sponsor, you might ask?
A sponsor is a bit similar to an accountability partner but someone who is more grounded in her/his recovery journey and can help you achieve sobriety.
Sponsors are found in Sexaholics Anonymous or Porn Addicts Anonymous Circles
What is a sponsor, you might ask?
A sponsor is a bit similar to an accountability partner but someone who is more grounded in her/his recovery journey and can help you achieve sobriety.
Sponsors are found in Sexaholics Anonymous or Porn Addicts Anonymous Circles
If you don't have SA or PAA meetings where you live, consider joining their audio conference calls and the email meetings. Please DM for how to join them and I'll connect you to it.
Books
Here's a Google Drive File with a list of books that I hope you'll find helpful (I'll link below). The books have everything from meditation to porn addiction recovery techniques, expressive writing, etc, etc
Here's a Google Drive File with a list of books that I hope you'll find helpful (I'll link below). The books have everything from meditation to porn addiction recovery techniques, expressive writing, etc, etc
I also have a couple of audiobooks I can DM to you on telegram. Help yourself to the books here. DM me so I can send you my telegram username.
https://drive.google.com/folderview?id=1EcrBaIDuRefVp2CPq4EazzfHWHc2BQ-c
https://drive.google.com/folderview?id=1EcrBaIDuRefVp2CPq4EazzfHWHc2BQ-c
Okay, so if you're female and looking for a support system, there's a telegram group chat. Just DM me. There's an interview process to ascertain you're actually female and serious about the recovery process.
Alright, that's it! Apologies for any typos. Hope this was helpful
Alright, that's it! Apologies for any typos. Hope this was helpful
