I am not a feminist. Maybe because I am a coward. Maybe because I worry too much about what people think about me. Maybe I'll be told that it is not Christian, or that I am a man-hater. But I sincerely hope that my future daughters will be staunch feminists... THREAD.

I don't know the finer details of what feminism entails, so I can neither cite nor attack its proponents. But I hear it is all about promoting eauailfy between the sexes. However, there is an observation I have made that makes me want to switch sides as late as yesterday.

Mr. X is courting Miss Y. Mr. X is an accomplished young gentleman, he ticks all the boxes. He is well educated, polished and successful, so it is improbable that he has some of the backward thoughts "the partriachy" (new vocabulary I had to use it) is infamous for.

Did I also add that Mr X is very attractive? A keeper, if you ask me.
Back to my story. Mr X marries Miss Y in a colourful and modern ceremony. They go for their idyllic honeymoon and return ready to face the rigours of married life with legendary determination.

Suddenly, Mr X cannot clean up after himself. The man whose apartment was spic and span every time Miss Y visited, suddenly does not know how to use a broom. The man who once dressed to kill now needs his wife to pick his socks, prepare his ties and iron his shirts.

The same man who used to wow his ladylove with home-made five-course dinners at his apartment is now sulking because Mrs X was late to start preparing supper. He does not know where the glasses are. And even if one is within his reach, his eyes cannot locate the water dispenser.

Where exactly do men get this sense of entitlement from? I don't know much about marriage, but I hear it is supposed to be a partnership. I hear the lady is supposed to be submissive to the husband, but does that really mean slaving for and mothering a big male baby?

During the first and last bridal shower I have ever attended, the bride was advised not to embark on acts of service she will not be able to sustain during her marriage. Granted, some married women enjoy doing these things for their husband, but should she decide to stop...

...for whatever reason, does that make her an irresponsible wife? A traitor to the marriage? As someone somewhere once said, things like cleaning and cooking should not be regarded as "a woman's job", rather, they are essential life skills.

As I said, I do not know much about feminism or marriage or life in general. I am open to dialogue, correction and enlightenment.