I have successfully disengaged (I hope) from the person who wanted to roll up on me out of "concern."

Dating is treacherous. I'm smarter about it now than I used to be, which basically boils down to looking for reasons to screen someone out, instead of in.

Unsolicited advice, pay attention to what someone finds funny. Sometimes it's harmless. Other times it reveals a pattern.

Humor was just one yellow flag in this case but I have an extreme example. I read an advice column letter aloud to the ex-hu. Married woman struggling w/fertility, preparing w/her husband for treatments found out he'd had a vasectomy before they even met.

Knew she wanted bio-kids, married her anyway, let her suffer through thinking something was wrong with her, never said a word, he was eventually outed by her MIL. Shocking yes?

My own marriage was a gala held in honor of big waving red banners, but I didn't start to SEE them until my ex-hu laughed at that story.

I'll let you decide what kind of person that makes him.