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In uncertain times, it's natural to want to connect with others. Many seek to form new relationships.
Please remember D/s is a negotiated power exchange based on informed consent.
Don't let any potential dominant undermine your consent or limits, or say your needs don't matter.
Please remember D/s is a negotiated power exchange based on informed consent.
Don't let any potential dominant undermine your consent or limits, or say your needs don't matter.
It's ok not to rush into things and you don't have to conform to D/s stereotypes - be consensual, risk-aware, communicate well, do what works best for you & whoever you're with.
Never forget that submissives matter as much as any dominant.
*You* matter. Don't be told otherwise.
Never forget that submissives matter as much as any dominant.
*You* matter. Don't be told otherwise.
Healthy D/s is founded on informed, consensual negotiations between equals.
Roles & responsibilities may change once a D/s dynamic has been agreed but when negotiating/ discussing, everyone is equal.
And consent can *always* be withdrawn, and dynamics ended or renegotiated.
Roles & responsibilities may change once a D/s dynamic has been agreed but when negotiating/ discussing, everyone is equal.
And consent can *always* be withdrawn, and dynamics ended or renegotiated.
A red flag: any potential dominant who thinks that submissives exist to be blank slates for their fantasies. Submissives are *not* automatons, they are people with needs and wants of their own! Power may be exchanged but everyone should be equally fulfilled.
Another red flag: people who have a history of treating their partners like crap. They may say that they've changed, they may say that their exes are 'crazy'/'obsessed'/'bitter'/etc./etc., but sooner or later they will end up treating you the same way. Be very wary.
(I'd also say this applies to people who dismiss accusations of poor or predatory behaviour as a product of 'internet drama'/'twitter cliques'/'haters'/'social media politics'/etc. - google D.A.R.V.O. when you have a moment [cw: abuse])
It's your twitter, do what's right for you. But I'd suggest doing some research before you get involved with a new dom.
Don't take their word for who they are.
Don't let the anticipation of a new relationship -or of meeting up after lockdown ends- blind you to potential red flags
Don't take their word for who they are.
Don't let the anticipation of a new relationship -or of meeting up after lockdown ends- blind you to potential red flags
And don't take any dom too seriously, including me 
Thank you for reading, here is a dinosaur.
Thank you for reading, here is a dinosaur.
