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I want to talk about something that is paining me deeply in my chest. I may be flawed in my perception and understanding and communication in saying this, but I& #39;ll say it anyways.
It& #39;s about a particular type of men
It& #39;s about a particular type of men
These men can be good friends, good people generally sometimes. You& #39;d perceive them as reasonable. You& #39;d perceive them as people who respect women, especially women who are killing it in their work. Women that they admire
Some of these women, they& #39;re attracted to. They have good friendships with, they spend a lot of their time with these women. They respect the choices of these women, but they don& #39;t want to date/marry these women.
They usually would like to date/marry a woman that would serve them, while they do nothing. They want to earn so much more than her, so that they can "control" things in the home. They would prefer her to work a job that gives them time to look after the children...
...(which in itself is a good thing) but they would want to do the same, even if they have a choice. They want a woman that never questions them, or their authority as the head of the home. They want a trophy wife, who isn& #39;t necessarily their friend, but their servant.
They wouldn& #39;t like to spend time with her most times, they prefer to spend time with their friends or women that they& #39;re actually attracted to. Women that they can have conversations with, easily. They want to monitor everything the woman does. They want her to be the trophy...
... girlfriend/wife for the good image. They want her to be completely accountable to him but she must never demand the same from them, because by so doing, she questions his authority.
These men are most times never bad fathers. They love their children so much and would...
These men are most times never bad fathers. They love their children so much and would...
...do anything for them. This should be enough for the wife, right? I mean, she chose a good father for her children. I mean, he provides for the family, he doesn& #39;t beat her, he fears God, he& #39;s a Deacon at church these are the most important things so she should have no reason...
...to complain. Like, there are some women that have it worse, so she should be satisfied. She never has conversations with him outside of the household and the children, not because she doesn& #39;t want to, but because he doesn& #39;t have time. But he& #39;s always going out with his...
...friends and work colleagues, something she& #39;d love to do too, but she has to stay at home and take care of the children. He claims he is all for equality, like splitting the bills for things in the home, but all the house chores and cooking and errands and "children wahala"...
...is for her to handle because she& #39;s the wife. She& #39;s never had an off day. She& #39;d love to travel by herself sometime but she can& #39;t. "Who will take care of me and the kids?", but he has a solo vacation every year, to explore places and "clear" his head.
I think this is paining me so much because a lot of women chose this kind of life without knowing what they signed up for. Obviously, there may be the kind of woman that doesn& #39;t really care about companionship and might want this kind of man, and this type of life and what not
The whole point of this thread is, if as a woman, relationships and marriage mean more than just "he provides for the household", "he would be a good father", "he doesn& #39;t beat me" etc, please you have to be alert because it& #39;s really easy to get carried away
Enjoy your day!
