here's a late night question for twitterland:
My triggers and squicks are super common in fic and art and almost never tagged. Is it worth asking content creators to tag them? (i would have to ask....a lot of people, almost to the point that it's kind of embarrassing)

since people are asking, I am phobic about vomit/vomiting/gagging, so rough blowjobs are a trigger for me that’s pretty popular.
Very rough sex/demeaning language (esp “slut, whore, etc”) is more of a squick that’s sometimes tagged but not often.

It’s interesting bc the first used to be very niche and mostly in explicitly tagged maledom/domsub fics, but it’s recently become quite mainstream and therefore harder to avoid. There’s been so! many! popular fics I’ve closed out of bc it seems to be in everything

last note, but one of the biggest reasons I’m into Reylo is the play on conventional power dynamics regarding gender that’s not seen often in fandom.
I get that not everything is written for me, but I think that’s why certain things are so nope for my tastes

ONE MORE THING
If I have to hear another person condescendingly say “oh you wouldn’t have lasted on LJ/ff.net/geocities/bbs/etc” I’m going to scream. It’s repackaged ‘special snowflake’ language that ignores the fact that tagging makes the fandom experience safer and better

ALSO
tagging specific sexual acts/potential triggers will also allow more readers to find your fics, so it’s win-win! One person’s yuck is another person’s yum, and wouldn’t it be great for the person who is jonesing for facefucking to be able to find it?