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Because they don't have to. https://twitter.com/pearlfectten/status/1245731989677842432
I've spent all day thinking of this tweet and my mother. My mother survived three decades of a deeply abusive marriage with a very troubled man because she didn't have the tools to leave.
She married him when she was eighteen; she was basically bullied into it. Her parents told her to get married so as to not shame them.
Despite all that? She has always told her daughters to run, not walk, if a guy mistreated them. 'Divorce as many times as you need to. Don't stay if they hurt you.'
I guess the tldr version is 'marriages don't last the same way because we have parents and elders who are deadset on making sure we don't follow in their misery.'
Side bar: this is probably the reason why I'm always so deliriously happy to hear my friends talk about their happy relationships.
Because when they do, I can tell it's two people who choose each other. Over and over again. Who don't take the other's love for granted. Who exult in the other's presence regularly.
In such a brittle world, full of ways to suddenly die, that kind of beauty is incandescent.
