unlearning purity culture, especially for people who grew up in very christian homes - is a forever thing.
as in forever and ever.

you first have to release your worth from the the purity itself.

and how the church literally says, "this is the highest thing a woman can be, pure and untouched"

even language plays a part.
how you refer to sexual acts.
how you feel after sex.
how you describe it.
how you feel when people speak about it in conversations.

don't qoute me.
but I feel that purity culture is also heavily to blame for how women blame themselves when they are raped or sexually assaulted.

nothing good comes out of a. culture that teaches you that you are safe gaurding your private parts and pleasure for a man who will then basically have your agency in his hands cause you are "married"

TW: sexual assault.

"The stakes are high in purity culture. Every slipup is a strike against any hope of a successful marriage. My body was not my own, not really. It belonged to God and to some featureless specter of a future husband." https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2018/08/evangelical-purity-culture-taught-me-to-rationalize-my-sexual-assault/

soul-ties twitter is also represented

last article on this.
a great read too. https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/pa98x8/purity-culture-linday-kay-klein-pure-review

yup.