Let's talk about feelings and how to be good to each other.

I know some of us have a hard time accessing things like our sadness or fear when other people around us are also sad or scared.

I'm thinking about the people who are good in a crisis. The ones who are weirdly calm when everything falls apart. You know who I'm talking about. The ones with the list.

There are people in your life who might seem detached from emotions when emotions are running high.
That might be frustrating for you, for a variety of reasons. But hear me out..

Some of us learned early in life that somebody needs to be the stable one in an unstable environment, and by necessity, we stepped into that role.

Some of us can only really allow ourselves to feel fear or sadness once the crisis has passed, and we feel safe enough to have a breakdown.
Expect some delayed reactions, don't force the issue when we can't talk about our fears or sadness in the moment.

And if this is you, my "good in a crisis, I'll cry later" friend?
We can't actually put off our emotions indefinitely. We can delay for a long, long, time, but you're gonna have to actually feel the feelings someday.

I know. It sucks. But it's part of being healthy. Boo.

In short, different people react differently to hard times. Be kind, be curious, and let people show you who they are and what they need.