Apologies can be sincere, considerate, or prompt.

Realistically, you are only ever going to get two of three.

A constant frustration of online accountability discourse is the demand for immediate responses to every issue.

Meaningful accountability requires consideration, negotiation, education, restoration, organization, healing, and consensus - all of which takes time. *A lot* of time.

And, crucially, no real infrastructure or organization exists for community accountability in online groups, which makes this kind of accountability work practically impossible to do with any kind of regularity.

Don't get me wrong, accountability and restorative justice are good things to strive for. As is harm prevention.

But absent any actual organization and procedure for such things, calls for accountability are literally just people shouting into the void. Pointless and exhausting.

If you want to be able to do serious accountability work within your groups and social spaces, that's great!

Just realize that what that work isn't call-out posts and venting on twitter. It's community organizing and infrastructure development - and it's slow, often work.

Frankly, I don't even mind if you're just venting personal feelings on twitter or youtube or whatever. That's fine. We all need an outlet sometimes.

But, for the love of yourself, do not conflate venting, drama highs, and digital self-harm with actual justice or activism.