A question to provoke thought:

How do you ask for consent?

Utilizing “FRIES”:

- consent is an enthusiastic, sober/sane, VERBAL “YES!”
- consent can be revoked at any time
- consent for one specific activity is not consent for another; ask for consent for each
- check in for consent through out (“do you like this/want to continue?”)

- do not lie, manipulate, pressure, or otherwise persuade to get consent (BDSM can walk a fine line here, and an experienced Top knows how to do so)
- a past yes is not a current yes
- do not guilt trip or otherwise shame someone’s lack of consent or their withdrawal of consent

Negotiations are vital before a scene, but always remember that consent is not static— it can change at any second, despite your former conversation or diligence.

Check in, check in, check in.