That last retweet might be the sign. Dang, can't believe I have to come out three times, though this is the actually the first time that it will be a big deal?

My coming out as asexual (particularly demisexual) is more of a realization than the denial to acceptance stuff. I was already ace before I knew the word and concept of it.

My coming out as bi-rom and subsequently panrom was more of a "oh, I didn't know liking girls AND boys was a thing" and realizing I actually fit into it. Of course I did ID as bisexual at first, but remember, I didn't know asexuality was a word. Now that was one hell of a

process, I was so confused about myself. It took quite a few years befire I fully settled into it? Now I know it wasn't as long as some other people's journey but yeah, again, ace, barely even attracted to anybody until I met my boyfriend. Crushes before that? Purely comphet

and it sucked. If I have the chance to talk to my younger self I would have told her that you don't need to force yourself to have a crush. Happiness in romantic love is nice to have, but it's not the endgoal that fits me.

Okay, next tweet is the big coming out part lmao

I am non-binary leaning towards the feminine. Okay, I am born female and because of that I don't feel comfortable using the term AFAB because some people may slam me for that?

I realized that I did actually like it when people ignored my gender? And not because of the feminist thing. While yes I have always stood and will always stand for women's rights, I was never fully comfortable with being stuck solely at that end of the gender spectrum.

Ever since I was a kid, I always did my best to defy what was expected of me as a girl. Skirts were only worn when it's the school uniform, and shorts are always worn underneath. Dresses were only worn if the dress code is strict and even then I will find a way to wear pants.

I never moved daintily. I moved efficiently and fast, if it meant looking ungraceful, I will take that consequence. I always insisted on doing tasks that teachers would usually ask the boys to do, and I would get extremely offended if the teachers told them to do the thing I was

doing. When family members tell me to fix my hair because I look prettier with my hair out of my face, I. Will. Mess. It. Up. Even more.

(yeah hi bf if you're reading this, you know a lot of this doesn't apply to you because I like it when you spoil me sometimes, love you)

But hell hath no fury like me scorned if I ever get put on the boys' list or worse, be called he or him (with my name, it happens A LOT). Even with the masculine shit, I am not a man. I do not like being called a man.

(btw gotta add that I'm comfortable with she/her only

because I'm used to it. Filipino doesn't have gendered pronouns, which give me a significant break from English pronoun discourse)

So realizing that and knowing now that gender is a spectrum, I decided to move that slider away from the feminine. Closer towards the middle.

But not exactly middle, it's still on the rather feminine side? Sometimes it will cross to the more masculine side when I'm not feeling great with being a woman that day, but I still won't use he/him, they/them would be fine.

Since then I was more comfortable with who I am. As I learned more, I grew more comfortable with expressing my identity through my clothes (just to let out subtle hints to other people) and widening that range I let that slider move (so it does happen, even rarely, that I

Become full on girl). I have that comfortable space in the gender spectrum that I feel safe in. I don't have to present as that gender I was born into without resorting to fully switching to the other side.

I'm in the middle and I feel happy about it. I'm proud to be nonbinary. Would appreciate it that if I'm going to be out to people I know irl, that they read this thread or talk to me instead of, you know, gossip or something.

For pronouns, I will be fine using the usual she/her (because yall can't look at my face and say I'm a guy), but since I picked Rain (a traditionally masculine name) as my online name, I will be more than fine with they/them. Just no he/him, please, I beg.

Yeah I guess that's it for me. Thanks for attending my TEDtalk?