Anyway, its story time with Aunty Wemms..
Lemme tell y'all a story about the worst heartbreak i have ever encountered. Featuring a psychotic, psychological liar..

I know i said 10am, pardon me. I'm a hustler, i do piece jobs but here i am..

Also, i don't tell you these stories to gain sympathy or whatever. I find writing about these experiences therapeutic and its nice to laugh about some of the sad things that happen to us in life. I fall 4 times and get back 100. I'm a G

We are going to call this guy "Zaque" okay?
Throw back to 2017, i was fresh outta heartbreak. Failed relationship with my son's deadbeat father. Ugh, i hated men. Couldn't even fathom the thought of even just small small cecs. Nah, i didn't want anything to do with that gender

So this guy slides in my Dms, we have a conversation. He seemed so intelligent, he had a way with his words. He was so funny, i am such a sucker for a funny nigga - Crack 3 jokes and i wanna have your babies, period.

We exchange numbers, we talked all the time. He was such a charmer.. I told him about my babies, he told me he had one too and we started making plans to link up and get to know each other better. So one saturday, we finally link up, have dinner and hit the club later.

At the club, we're having a good time. Shots on shots, grinding on each other. Kissing & what not. Pa last Wemmy ba towinga'
We end up spending the night at his, one thing leads to another. Don't you dare judge me Felicia because God knows you be fornicating too!

So the following day, it's disaptch time. We have breakfast and calls me a cab. Guys, when saying our goodbyes, he kisses my big ass head. Gosh, i am bubbly, i am sold!! Communication between us gets even deeper after the cecs, our hook up sessions go on for months

One day he calls me and says "Wemmy, there's something i have been keeping from you and i feel terrible, i just feel you should know - I have a girlfriend" Bro, my chest has intense pains at this point, that chikonko icha kandolo pamukoshi? It was paining me

So his main was out of the country yeah? And i was totally okay with that because man, she is none of my concern, just a girlfriend in law. We good.
Doesn't she graduate and come back to Zambia to steal my happiness? I need to act quick!!

So one day, i text him some nasty shit at 2am. Kanshi they're together and she reads our whole conversations. This is where shit hits the fan.

Following day she calls my phone.
"Wemmy, what's the nature of the relationship between you and Zaque? I just need the truth right now"
I am so sad rn, i am upset, and just done with this side chick business man. So i say "We're just friends" She hangs up

A couple of weeks down the line, they break up. A couple of months later, he comes to me talking about how much of a good woman i am and how i understood him so much and how he'd want to do this life thing with me.. Man, i take a leap of faith.

You know this whole "If he cheats with you, he will cheat on you" blah blah phrase, nigga i prayed to God everyday hoping that was just some bs quote created by a bitter baby momma I was in love, so in love. I was ready to risk it all. Sell all my siblings if i have to..

Now listen, i am a giver and I'd literally give my life for those that i love.. I had no issues with splitting all the little monies i made with him because I am such an "OUR" "WE" "OURS" Type of woman. But whenever he had money, it was "HIS" Red flag number one I ignored.

His phone would be off over the weekend and he'd come back with a story so believable. I trusted him, he was my cinnamon apple
He was my CousCous - Food so nice they named it twice

So now, things get shaky between us because i am tired of his inconsistency. The lies. Everything. Yes, the D the was good, he was such an astronomical finisher na Mbappe ashala.
But guys
" Man can not live on the luga alone" - Wemmythious the Goat

Remember the ex that got a job out of town?It is him.
So he relocates after our "break up" a few weeks later he calls me talking about come and live with me here. Shit man, i can't resist this person. Was i mad? No, was in love? Yes. So madness na being in love = Same same. Think

Now i am really thinking about it. He sells me dreams about us starting a business there and all that. Now i have so much to leave behind. My family, my business, my friends, Chicago's, Sky bar.. Uh, it was weighing on me heavy but i wanted to take this chance.

I say fuck it mayne. I tell my momma i got a job outta town - I am not proud but i needed to do this with him. I loved him you guys, pls don't judge me. God will punish you.
My momma is skeptical about this,she tells my sister - the head sibling kaili she's the richest..

So now this is me and my sisters in the house. Heated arguments
"wemmy, show us the contract" "Takuli neko aleya uyu"
naine nati kulibe whether what olo what i am dipping butah

So now my family is mad at me, everybody cuts me off but its okay because look, we're tryna be on some Romeo and Juliet ting. Ugh, i am such a lover of love.
I withdraw all the monies i ever saved, buy groceries, buy ma vegetable rack lmfao what a fucken idiot i was

Now this is were God decides to punish me for my foolishness, 2 days later i pack EVERYTHING. 04, i am out. Please note that this was a little after all my routine monthly visits yeah?
I left with a heavy heart you guys, i get to intercity, don't i get robbed?

God is angry now. My phone, ALL my money. Gone! Just like Messi when you need him in big games - Vanished.
Luckily, i already have my ticket. I am crying, i am upset. Nothing feels right at this point you guys. I am shaking, but do press 1 to proceed? You guessed right, i do.

So guys, Aunty Wemms takes the 5 hour trip
I get there he is ecstatic. Gives me a chima hug. Ine nati chapwa maybe chupo apapene. You never know
Haaa. Worst mistake of my life. He takes me home, goes for work as usual. So now the house is a mess, i begin to tidy up..

I empty the laundry basket and the first thing that drops "Trust studded" Fam, my heart drops. Ifilamba nalilile ilya day na Kariba dam kwisula. I know exactly what this is but i am in denial y'all. I am praying "God if you love me, let them be gloves or earrings" idk man

You guys, i cried.
"The Wemminator wept" - Niggalations 6:1
Now remember i was robbed? I have no phone so how do i confront this stanina?!!
I wait for him to get back home. I am on the edge all day, i am sobbing i am just so so sad mwebantu bandi. It hurt like a motherfucker

So he gets back from work, i confront him.
So he says yes, he says he was cheating. It went on for 3 whole weeks but she is gone now, she is out of the picture. Like that's supposed to make me feel better? I am fuming at this point because my temper is just as short as i am

I ask him to sleep in the other room
He does. Following day he wakes up, doesn't say anything gets ready for work, leaves.
Gets back, still the same silent treatment likee.. How you gone be in the wrong and play the victim nigga? Are you okay???

You guys, this silent treatment goes on
Now how do i go back home? I am broke. Nalisha naponta. My sisters hate me. My mum doesn't want anything to do with me
Mwelesa ndimwana wenu please. I am devastated. Mental health on E, i am slowly spiralling into depression

So one day i ask him if we could talk. He agrees and tells me the only reason he has been quiet is cause he feels terrible about what he did. He is ashamed. I deserve better. Bitch yes i do. But that was just some bum ass story. So i asked what the way forward was -

He tells me "Just leave, you're too good for me"
I am just there like.. Do you know how much shit i have left behind, all the sacrifices i have made just to be here with your dusty ass?

This was legit me everyday. All i did was cry. I was losing weight, barely ate, barely slept. I am getting home sick at this point. I miss my family, i just wanna DIE. I was depressed you guys. He didn't care, he was always on his phone "kikiki'ng"

A week later, i start experiencing pain in my ribcage, i tell him about it. He doesn't give a hoot. The pain intensifies day by day. I am coughing out blood. I am experiencing shortness of breathe, pain in my bladder. Nah, i swallow my pride and call my momma

I can hear the pain in her voice. It breaks my heart. She tells me "you need to come home", she tells me how much she loves me and how home will always be my home.
She asked if i needed anything, i said no. I was dead broke mind you but i didnt wanna stress her.

The following day, i just say fuck it. Pack my bags, and leave. I still have no money. So i get to the shops a few yards away, i ask for a phone, log into facebook and reach an old old fling, well he said "if i ever needed anything" Nigga i need you now.

He sends me some money. I get to the turn off,met this congolese man that was on his way to Congo from Nakonde or Darr idk, he was just from picking up his G-Wagon. He offered me a ride till Kapiri, i agreed. After all these tears i smiled some kukwelalo G-Wagon iwe ndaniiii

The man spoke little English, he was fluent in French so conversations weren't flowing. I slept half the trip because i was in such excruciating pain. We get to Kapiri, the man gives me his number and asks me to visit him in Congo sometime. Like ok nigga bye I'm dying here.

From Kapiri,i get on a bus to Lsk.I get to lusaka get on a cab to home. Nsoni zongena bwa?
I am in so much pain and first thing my mom does is take me to the hospital. Doctors run tests and they find my right Kidney infected - My sisters are still so mad at me btw at this point

I couldn't walk, i couldn't talk much. I was in PAIN everyday. But somehow, my sisters still found it in their hearts to be there for me, even bathing me so Your family is your family. Please never forget that.

Now after i got better, this is where his psychotic tendencies started to show. But that's a story for another day loves

Now let me tell you something, there’s unfortunately no remedy for a heart that feels too deeply. But don’t ever let anyone convince you that’s a flaw. You're allowed to feel everything deeply - Love or Pain, Just feel.

I learnt so so much from that experience but one of the greatest lessons i learnt was to never ever take the good people in your life for granted.Healing is not linear, take your time to feel everything you need to. Some days are good,some are hard but breathe, you're doing great

Do not ignore the red flags, do not make excuses for them and DO NOT be too forgiving because they KNOW exactly what they're doing..

Grateful for my family everyday because they Got me and they Got me for real. I pray for them more than i pray for me. Lastly, grateful for the very few good friends that God has blessed me with

Fin.
Thank you for reading, till next time
For all your catering & domestic cleaning gigs, i am your girl.
Please be kind to yourselves and one another. Stay bless