Thread by @skaologist, Ok, fellow lesbians! My tips on how to cope with dysphoria while [...]

Ok, fellow lesbians!
My tips on how to cope with dysphoria while in quarantine!

I hope it’ll help you ladies out in these trying times.
But First, I must make a disclaimer so I don’t upset anyone (1/)

Disclaimers:
. These are all my

, so don’t take them as law
. From 16 up until Now I have been struggling with dysphoria.
. I used to bind. But not anymore.
. Only helping with what I’ve experienced
.again, my word is not law, and I am not speaking over detrans sisters (2/)

Chest binding urge:
. Resist wearing your binder by wearing either a wireless or comfort bra and baggy clothing to ‘hide’ your breasts from plain sight. If you can, don’t wear one at all. Let your muscles relax from the pressure. (3/)

Now that you have the time. Begin to rediscover your body through simple (non sexual) touch and feel. Acknowledge that THIS is your body, and YOU own it. You are fine the way you are, tell that to yourself. Every day too. It will help in the long run, trust me. (4/)

Your body is yours, and I’ll say that until hell freezes over. There is nothing wrong with you. NOTHING. You are more than just your breasts, you may not feel like that now, but in due time, practising getting used to seeing and feeling who you are will bring the comfort (5/)

If you feel disgusted or uncomfortable acknowledging your chest. Stop. Take a breather. There is no rush here, you heal at your own pace. Don’t force yourself to see or touch them. This will cause more hatred and discomfort. Start when you’re ready (6/)

If even looking at your chest brings your sheer discomfort. Start with verbal positive reminders.
“I am who I am, and I am me”
“I am fine the way I look”
“I exist on my own terms”
“This is not my fault. I am fine how I am”
(7/)

“I am natural. I am not a monster”
“I refuse to give into the hatred”
(And most importantly) “I forgive myself”
Forgiving yourself is the first step to true recovery and comfort in yourself and I’ll explain why (8/)

In order to close the cycle of self hatred, you must forgive what your past self has done to survive. This goes for all types of trauma, not just dysphoria. You can’t work on improving your confidence if you in question still have hang ups about what you did in the past. (9/

Womanhood is crushing I know. it’s not our fault we are traumatised and alienated.
We simply try to exist as gnc/masc women and in the eyes of society that must be stopped and shamed.
Of course we then start to think WE are the ones in the wrong. That is untrue. (10/)

Verbally and physically becoming one with your body you distanced yourself from out of shame if truly an act of great defiance and great courage.
And I admire and greatly support my fellow dysphoric and detrans sisters.

(11/)

Please remember that your body isn’t a disgusting flesh vessel. It’s hard not to listen to your self hatred but fighting back with self love really does makes a difference in the long run. It is hard. There will be possible set backs, but I believe in you all.

(12/)

Detachment from womanhood urge:
Wanting to turn your back on being female and having major discomfort from being perceived such is very common. I’ve struggled with it for years and here’s how I counteract it. (13/)

. Start to surround yourself with fellow desisters and masc women. The normality of being gnc and female will slowly creep into your mind and wash away the feeling of being an oddity.
Online communities do exist and we sure are out here existing! (14/)

But I must digress. A lot of these communities can cause more harm than good. Pity parties and circle jerking about how depressed you are without the resources to take the next step to recovery can cause dysphoria to increase. (15/)

In my experience, I think a healthy mix of fellow gnc women, gnc lesbians, normie lesbians and just regular normies with mixed opinions are a good choice. Therefore you’re not trapped in an echo chamber and can’t escape the cycle of non recovery. (16/)

But of course, I do not mean become friends with homophobic individuals or gender enforces. Oh no. That’s just adding a knife into your healed wound so to speak. (17/)

Coming to terms with the reality that you ARE female and you ARE non conforming is not a race. It’s your life. You have the power to make it a walk in the park, and with support, you can start to feel at one with your stride. I have faith in you (18/)

Here’s some verbal positivity to keep saying to yourself when you’re feeling insecure in your female self... (19/)

“I am a woman, regardless of what society says”
“My womanhood is mine. I do not owe it to society”
“I am not a freak. I am a woman and I am proud”
“My biology will never change. stop calling me a man”
“My choices do not change who I am.”
“My female body is mine.” (20/)

Being perceived as a woman in a society that wants to crush you is fucking scary. I know. I don’t like being seen by groups of men when I’m out because they know what to do once they see I’m a lady.
That isn’t my fault. Neither is it yours. It’s theirs. (21/)

But while being in quarantine. There’s not really a society out there to wander around in. That’s why, now is the best time to take care of yourself and rediscover your womanhood. You have the time and less set backs. (22/)

It’s worrying that there’s little resources to help dysphoria attacks. And I really wish there was some so I can link them here but alas...

If you have any questions or want me to give a more detailed thread about a certain topic I’ve touched on today, do please reply! (23/)

I do really wish I could of made a video but I just don’t have the skills or time or confidence to properly put my face out here. As I feel this tweet thread is very superficial and there’s just so much more I want to say that surpasses the word limit.

Thankyou

stay safe

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