I’m all for friendships that occur organically.

I can’t force a friendship just to be part of a clique, or because someone is successful, or because people think I should hang out with a person. Being an acquaintance is one thing. A genuine friendship has to occur naturally.

Aura and energy is important to me. How someone carries themselves is important to me. Someone’s interests are important to me. I need to feel like my friends match my spirit. If our energies, character, behaviours and interests significantly misalign, we can’t be ‘friends’.

That’s not to say I dislike the person. Far from. I could respect them. Like them. Even admire them for certain attributes. They may even be a close acquaintance. But for me to call someone my friend, I feel like I can be 100% myself around them and we are ‘birds of a feather’.

Also, there are people I may know of, that I think might make nice friends, but because the opportunity to develop a friendship hasn’t naturally occurred, we aren’t close. That’s not to say we won’t be friends in the future, but I just like things falling into place naturally.