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How am I a sex worker that only pursues personal sexual & romantic relations with woman, a thread:
Let’s take the definition of sexual orientation as being “the gender which you are sexually attracted to” and the definition of a Sex worker as “someone providing sexual services”
Let’s take the definition of sexual orientation as being “the gender which you are sexually attracted to” and the definition of a Sex worker as “someone providing sexual services”
Facts are facts, I undertake a service, sexual activity with customers in exchange for money that puts a roof over my head, my clientele is Male. This exchange is consensual on the basis that they respect my boundaries, follow common courtesy and I get paid.
My customers choose me, they do so because they have an attraction to me or my body. I do not choose them, therefore regardless of their gender I will most likely not be attracted to them. I am okay with this.
I have dated women consecutively for the last 4 years, I have a romantic and sexual attraction to women that allows me to develop intense feelings. My work for me, is completely separate, it is consensual but it is a service I provide on the basis of pleasing my clients, not me.
I expect nothing more than our mutual exchange and respect in return. I have been a sex worker for three years and I can count the times I have climaxed on one hand, not by arousal but by the placement of my body. Some might find that weird, sad almost?
The assumption that sex workers are sex workers because they “enjoy sex” is often (not always) misconstructed. I work because I like money, I like company and I like the positive changes I have implemented in my life since becoming a sex worker.
Customers ask me on dates, my answer: if it’s paid. My relationships with men are based on the financial aspect, and purely because they are the clientele that seek the service in which I offer. That been said, would I offer this service to a woman?
As a sex worker, we are often reluctant to make romantic connections in our personal lives because of the recurring thought “why do it for free when I could be getting paid”. For me, I find having romantic connections with WOMEN and not men helps me eliminate this notion.
To avoid combining the two and offering sexual services to women, I restrict this to the main clientele to upkeep that spark and real-life chemistry with the person I want to settle down with. Does this make me any less gay?
Considering that 2/3’s of lesbians have had sex with a man in their lifetime and 22% in the last year - I’d say no, I don’t think so. I’d say I have more of an ability to emotionally disconnect because of the life experiences I have been through. This for my job, is an advantage.
However, regardless of what society wants to brand me as, I am 100% more able to create opportunities for myself because of my job. When the time comes I will settle down with a woman whom I am sexually attracted to. End of thread
