Women need to stop budging for men they’re not impressed by and stop caring about potential. Why?
Cause if men found a woman unattractive, they don’t imagine how much better she would look if she put more effort into her look. They approach based on how she looks then and there.

Only women get carried away with potential. Women – especially black women - need to learn to judge a man for what he is in the moment he approaches you. Be as unmoved as a man who finds a woman ugly. He wouldn’t take time to imagine her with make up, nicer hair or clearer skin.

Most men won’t glance a woman’s way if she is heavier than he wants (even though she can lose weight).
Men are unapologetic about what they want. If a woman is not it, they keep it moving with swiftness.
Stop playing yourself by giving them special treatment. Match this energy.

If the only thing that is making you commit to a man is his potential, you better pack your bags and get the hell out of there. If he can’t impress you with anything he actually is/has right now, leave him alone.