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i dont know who needs to hear this but i'm going to give some advice to those who are struggling with their sexuality/labeling themselves.
1. there is no age limit. i didn't know i had feelings for girls until i was 18 ( i just told myself i had friend crushes)
you'll never really have it figured out and THAT IS OKAY
you'll never really have it figured out and THAT IS OKAY
2. sexuality is fluid. please don't spend days after days trying to depict your feelings and preferences. It doesn't matter who you chose to love.
3. dont feel as if you have to label yourself because everyone else does. you dont need a label. that's why there's the umbrella term 'gay' or 'queer' or !!! you dont need to label yourself at all.
4. dont feel like your feelings aren't valid because they don't make sense in your head. some days it'll feel like it all makes sense and other days it'll feel like you are suffocating. that is okay and you are not alone.
5. you are allowed to change your label. just because you came out as bi/gay/lesbian/a-sexual/pan it does NOT mean you can't change it. it is your life, you rule it
6. other people will voice their unnecessary opinions and it will get under your skin. own who you are and show you are proud of it. (because i'm proud of you too)
7. clothing. CLOTHES DON'T VALIDATE OR INVALIDATE YOUR SEXUALITY!!!!!! i literally have went through every phase thinking i needed to dress a certain way for my sexuality to be valid. that is not true. dress what you are comfortable with. your clothes dont define you
8. parents/friends/family.
these opinions are hard and it's so so so tough. you are not alone please know that. it gets easier and i know if you're going through it rn you're probably rolling you're eyes, i did too. my dad didn't talk to me for 6 months, (part 1)
these opinions are hard and it's so so so tough. you are not alone please know that. it gets easier and i know if you're going through it rn you're probably rolling you're eyes, i did too. my dad didn't talk to me for 6 months, (part 1)
(cont) but one day without expecting it, it gets easier and it will feel less lonely.
(my dad didnt speak to me for 6 months. Told me he would never understand it. Now loves my girlfriend and the bond they have is remarkable.)
(my dad didnt speak to me for 6 months. Told me he would never understand it. Now loves my girlfriend and the bond they have is remarkable.)
9. This journey never ends. You are always coming out. New people you meet automatically assume you are straight. It is okay, just remember to be proud of who you are and own it.
10. bringing this up again because its a big factor that defines me. People tried to invalidate my sexuality because i didn't realize my sexuality until after highschool.
There is no time frame for coming out/questioning yourself!!!!!!!
There is no time frame for coming out/questioning yourself!!!!!!!
11. This journey is so tough. It is suffocating and long and you will feel alone. But you are not alone. You are seen by me. I love you for who you are and your individual self is so loved and important to me.
12. I'm writing this to give advice, the advice i needed when I went through this. I love you so much. My DM's are always open so please come talk to me if you need to be heard.
I am so proud of you.
I am so proud of you.
