ok I think the thing about genderpeople that *actually* bothers me is that I feel not allowed to use my own gender framework around them. I honestly don& #39;t give a shit how they present, how deviant from gender norms they are, whether they wear makeup or a boy cut. (1/6)

The last few guys I dated would regularly wear women& #39;s clothing and I didn& #39;t mind at all. I& #39;ve applied makeup to many of my male friends!
Despite how I look, I& #39;m also pretty deviant, and deeply sympathize with the difficulty of failing to perform the & #39;correct& #39; gender norms. (2/6)

So to reiterate - any expression you want to have with your own body, clothing, mannerism, vocabulary - I welcome it.

But I want to retain ownership over the way gender resonates with me. To me, all that stuff above has very little to do with gender. (3/6)

To me, expression is independent of gender, and your gender is completely outside of your control; it resides in the eyes of society. Gender *is* an assignment of society. And so when people expect me to view them as a gender I don& #39;t view them as, that just does not work.(4/6)

I can& #39;t view them as the gender they want no matter how hard I try.
And to be clear, I still use preferred pronouns and try to do all the least upsetting things for genderpeople. I just am bothered by how afraid I feel to express the way I experience gender. (5/6)

In my ideal world, they would say "Hey, my pronouns are they/them", and then I& #39;d say "Nice to meet you! I process your gender as your birth sex and don& #39;t view you as nonbinary personally, but I& #39;m happy to use your pronouns if that makes you more comfortable." (6/6)