the lower three chakras are very neglected and people wonder why their intuition is so cloudy and they always find themselves needing outside opinions. return back to your root and ground yourself and confront your insecurity and fear first and foremost.

your intuition is always going to feel like paranoia when you are not rooted.

healing and balancing your root chakra means creating a healthy and solid home within YOURSELF. not other people. addressing fears you hold and insecurities such as inadequacy, fear of change, and fear of vulnerability. doing the real work in getting to know yourself.

untethering yourself from broken foundations that are byproducts of your childhood. creating your own foundation by first asking yourself what it is you NEED before what you want. meet your needs first. desire is sacral, not root.

before you can want a relationship (sacral), you need a healthy and rooted sense of self so you know how a relationship even aligns with your values. if you feel void and absent within, no relationship is erasing that. we are all responsible for our relationship with self.

root is BOUNDARIES. establishing, enforcing, and maintaining your boundaries so that you do not compromise your sense of self for what you desire. root is integrity. without boundaries, we are not aligned with anything truly meant for us. boundaries are mandatory, not optional.

not being grounded makes it so that the other chakras do not even open properly. they exaggerate their function or their function is severely under-powered.

we see it most in imbalanced heart chakras with unhealthy empathing and always seeking to ingest emotions like food.

exaggerated heart function is believing you are more compassionate and more capable of love than other people so you feel that it is your responsibility to over-function and take on the world's problems like they belong to you. martyrdom and savior complexes are imbalanced heart.

being rooted helps you see that we are capable of empathy and it is our responsibility to not neglect our heart's boundaries and discernment. you can be generous and loving without being a doormat, a perpetual victim of your "big heart", or always wanting to rescue.

not being rooted leads to sacral imbalance which is either under-functioning as extreme self-doubt, procrastination, emotional chaos and instability -- feeling like your emotions are controlling you rather than informing you, lack of motivation and resilience.

or over-functioning as seeking more relationships than you have the capacity for, being sexually indiscriminate with no boundaries or regard for your personal safety (root), hyper-reactive to emotional stimuli, etc. rooting means getting back into your body and creative center.

one of the healthiest ways to heal your sacral chakra that is undervalued is celibacy/abstinence. calling your energy back to you so that you understand its purpose for *yourself* before sharing it with others. redirecting your horny urges & creating instead, should that call you

sometimes what we feel as horny is just a desire to channel our creative energy. always, do what works for you, but that is a perspective.

for me, if i'm having a lot of sex but not feeling inspired to create otherwise, that's a red flag. that feels like sabotage to me.

i know my relationship is imbalanced when we'd rather have sex but feel no motivation to work on our projects, knowing that lack of work leads to inner stagnancy and self-blame for not feeling "inspired". which creates even more problems because not creating leads to depression.

it's in knowing what it is really being asked of you. sexual energy and creative energy are the same.

you confront fears of change by making change and moving with the process. fear of change = fear of lack of control. some changes we have no control over but that does not mean resisting them. without change and evolution, there is only stagnancy, which leads to more blockage.

you cannot control everything and wanting to feel in control means you do not feel empowered/in your power and you seek power externally by trying to force things to go your way by micromanaging, manipulating, and resisting. your control is fear.

wanting to be in control means you will always miss moments that could surprise you and change your circumstances for the better because control always relies on closed-mindedness and narrow thinking. control is focused on outcome only. it is self-limiting.

feeling empowered, safe, and open to surrender means you trust yourself to be able to handle any circumstance that comes your way because you have developed a relationship with yourself and your intuition and can be led to what is best for you, not best for your fear.

wanting to feel in control means you don't trust that your intuition is the right voice leading you. it is a systemic lack of trust in self to control and feel unequipped to be resilient and adaptable. how did your ancestors make it so you could be here? adaptation.

as a recovering control freak, hello virgo 1H with scorpio and capricorn placements ... what helps me when i feel the need to take control of something because i don't like how it is going is asking myself, "why do i think my way is the only way when i haven't tried others?"

"what about this situation is making me feel fearful?"
"where am i cutting myself off from a learning experience by being controlling?"
"where am i taking someone's power from them to figure things out on their own by trying to control what they do?"

"am i in the present moment and grounded or am i replaying a scenario that is similar to this and trying to avoid that outcome even though this situation is entirely different?"
"am i being paranoid?"
"if i control this instead of allowing it to unfold naturally, what do i miss?"

"what don't i trust right now? myself?"
"if i control, do i stop myself from using my power to problem solve?"
"if i control, will i sabotage myself again?"

it sounds crazy, but if i didn't talk to myself ALOUD, i'd be a train wreck. ungrounded and unfocused. i take being in harmony more seriously than being looked at as "crazy" for talking to myself. i avoid trouble and harm by checking in like this.

"girl, what are you doing?" - me to myself 300 times a day. it is grounding to me. asking myself WHAT i am doing so i am aware that i'm in the process of taking action and need to be present and mindful.

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a lot of people are controlling because they think they if they control everything, they can avoid being hurt or avoid being embarrassed. sure.

but if you sit with that, what hurts more?

knowing you could micromanage or knowing you denied yourself of so many other experiences to feel joy by always being focused on avoiding pain?

knowing you can get someone to do what you want or knowing you don't trust them deep down?

knowing you always have influence over someone or dealing with them leaving you because you wouldn't allow them their right to freedom without being controlled by your fear?

look at that. you controlled, and you still got hurt.
maybe control shouldn't be your go-to strategy.

practical ways to balance your root chakra:

- establish boundaries. this is probably the most important because a lot of problems tend to fall away when you decide you will no longer create space for it.

- spending time in nature, earthing (bare feet to ground).

incorporating more red foods into your diet.
incorporating warming and grounding medicines and herbs* such as burdock root, chai, reishi mushroom, ashwagandha, turmeric.

** please do your own research when it comes to herbal medicine, as all medicine can carry side effects

- SLEEP!! neglecting sleep and rest creates systemic problems in the body. rest yourself

- eliminate distractions that make you feel ungrounded such as limiting violent programming on tv, reducing social media use + using the filters (boundaries), gossip, drama

- checking in with yourself when you feel fearful and asking yourself what is available to you that will help you feel safe AND not hurt you in the process.

- reducing self-medicating as a way to avoid dealing with stress and instead do mindful things like take a walk, meditate

- aromatherapy with geranium, sandalwood, cedarwood, vetiver, clove, patchouli, vanilla essential oils

- choosing critical thinking over criticism

and then all of the woo woo stuff like crystals and healing frequencies but those alone can never replace the active work you are supposed to be doing in your body and environment. tools, not replacements.

practical ways to balance your sacral chakra that have nothing to do with having sex:

- dancing and stretching. move your body if you are able / for those with physical limitations, listening to + feeling the vibrations of music and singing along

- LAUGHTER!

- spending time with children, especially playing with them and tapping back into things that remind you of your childlike imagination

- leaving unhealthy relationships and calling your power back to you. all you toxic genital worshippers, if sex is all yall have, time to go.

- creating just to create which is just as valuable because creating just because lowers the instances of you destabilizing your root chakra because creation is not linked to your survival, just your imagination and pleasure

color, draw, paint, pottery, beading, making music

- take yourself on a date and romance yourself. loving and positive affirmations of your beauty, power, creativity, etc.

- hugs and physical intimacy with others outside of intercourse

- honoring the boundaries you set to open your root

- transforming doubt into curiosity aka my favorite thing to do. instead of saying, "i don't think i can do this", tell yourself "i am going to try to see what happens without needing a certain outcome, just seeing what my power can do" / try it. it helps me get things done :)

because the sacral chakra is home to our reproductive/sexual organs, ensuring the health of these is a major advantage of balancing this chakra.

for those with wombs:

- self womb massage / don't knock it til you try it. here is a video demonstrating:

herbal medicines* that support hormonal balance and connection to the womb + Yin, such as wild yam root, dong quai, raspberry leaf, motherwort, dandelion, cramp bark, and yarrow

** as always, research. some of these are not advised if you are pregnant or breastfeeding

for those with a penis/testes/prostate:

adaptogens are great for maintaining your hormonal balance. rhodiola and eleuthero root, plus nettle and ashwagandha

i'm not fully equipped to comment on what it's like having so these are just starting points.

- human connection is essential to a balanced sacral because when it is under-powered, we feel isolated and disconnected. spend time with your people

- flexibility. rigidity blocks the sacral from functioning as intended, especially since it helps our emotions flow.

- incorporating more citrus into your diet + other plant medicines such as damiana, orange peel, and ginger

- journaling to get in tune with your emotions and how they flow

all of these create room for a healthy solar plexus, which leads to a healthy and empowered intuition.

i'm going to end here because if not i'll keep going. but focusing on what is going to ground you and help you release control and focus on flowing with life is essential.

a healthy root helps you sense your environment from a place of knowing exactly what is happening because you're right there in the moment, not in your head separated from what your body and gut are telling you. and you can follow your intuition much more clearly that way.