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Harassment & Abuse (Trigger warning)
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1. I was 8, while shopping in f-6, the sales boy touched my back everytime he used to walk past by. I tried to change places but he'd appear, I was so petrified that I told my aunts that I've to use washroom & we left in a hurry.
A thread;
1. I was 8, while shopping in f-6, the sales boy touched my back everytime he used to walk past by. I tried to change places but he'd appear, I was so petrified that I told my aunts that I've to use washroom & we left in a hurry.
2. My bestfriend was sexually assaulted by her father's secretary for one year when she was 9. I've witnessed the trauma, nighmares she went through, years after when she told her father he denied and said that 'this can't happen as he was a dignified man.'
3. My neighbour's mamu felt her body and tried to kiss her while she was asleep. When she later confronted him, he admitted that he was attracted to her. Her mother reacted with, 'Mere bhai pe ilzam na lagao.' He teaches Islamic studies at a renowed university, has six children.
4. Two of my teachers whom I considered a father figure, hit upon me by saying, 'Nikkah ka irada tha, dosri shadi karna is Rassullah SAW ki sunnat.' Both were married with one having children of my age with one being Hafiz-e-Quran & Imam of Masjid.
5. Almost a year ago, a co-worker deliberately bumped into me with full thrust and apologised, instantly, later I heard him quoting the incident & saying 'uff maza aagya tha.' I walked away with disgust & his laugh echoing.
6. Last month a guy (travelling first class, so must be educated & well-off) was sitting with me during the flight. At the luggage belt, he tilted his mobile to take my picture and walked off hurriedly, I didn't do anything as I was too tired to make a scene.
7. My tutor in Grade 4 used to touch my thighs whenever I used to get any answer right, I thought that was his way of praising me so I told my grandmother & she instantly fired him the next day.
8. A co-worked made a female junior sit alone with him at a client uptil 9 in the night, she cried while mentioning the incident. I told the manager who promised to reprimand him but nothing really happened.
9. I was sitting with team with headphones on, one of them excitedly walked in and told others thinking I can't hear him, to accompany him to see 'aao dekhen wo xyz ki tang nazar arahe hey.' (Of a female co-worker who dresses decently, wears shalwar kameez & covers her head).
10. Our next door neighbour who's my father's age, his children are still my friends walked up to me when I was playing in street with a key & said 'mai inhe (pointing to his family) drop kar keh araha houn, andar mera wait karna.' I was too naive to comprehend what he meant.
11. A boy in school asked me out, I politely said no. His fragile ego couldn't handle it so, he made a fake social media account to blackmail me, edited my pictures and threatened to send it to my family.
12. My coworkers talk about female bodies everyday. I overheard 'Aaj uskay bht b*r*y lag rahe hen.' 'Isse chala nai ja raha, laali aiye hui hey' followed by a giggle.
13. Last year when I got off the horse after riding & was walking back, some 35 year old nudged my arm and said 'well-done.' I was baffled & stopped him to tell his 'liberal' 'oxford graduate woke-self' about something as basic as "consent."
14. A friend's really sick but won't go ahead for clinical tests, after repeatedly asking she told that at the age of 14, during some xray, the lab guy felt & pinched her chest. To-date she's scared of closed labs
15. A friend was constantly touched & fondled by her cousin, I told his mother when he had forcefully taken her on roof & told me to go downstairs. His mother entered the room (while he was forcing her to take off her pants) & slapped the 9 yo so bad that her ear started bleeding
16. On a school trip, my male classfellows sat at the back in bus and constantly touched a classfellow's bra strap, when she told the coordinator, he shrugged it off. Later I found the main guy alone and pelted him with stones.
17. A friend's 'educated' father constantly abuses his daughters with by calling them a prostitute, bastard & tells his son that tumhari maa aur behnein kanjirayan hen.
18. A friend's Qari Sahab used to make her touch his genitals, it went on for 2 years until he moved to some other place.
I can go & on, I'm not some woke liberal with a foreign agenda, I cover myself head to toe yet this is what I see around myself everyday.
I belong to a well-connected family, I've been to private schools, never travelled publically. Just imagine the plight of other females.
I belong to a well-connected family, I've been to private schools, never travelled publically. Just imagine the plight of other females.
Who's responsible?
1. Ignorance? No, because the educated liberals are doing it.
2. Lack of Islamic education? No, because the torchbearers of Islam are doing it.
3. Non-implementation of Islamic principles? No, because apparently mehram relations are even doing this.
1. Ignorance? No, because the educated liberals are doing it.
2. Lack of Islamic education? No, because the torchbearers of Islam are doing it.
3. Non-implementation of Islamic principles? No, because apparently mehram relations are even doing this.
Zara sochiye keh agar itni taleem keh baad hum kuch nahi kar paate tou janobi Punjab mai zulm ki chakki mai pissi hui aurat kya kar sakti hay? Agar taleem yafta log ye kar rahe hen tou an-parh keh sath kya horaha hai?
3 mahinay ki bachi mehfoz nai hai, apne ghar mai soiye hui larki mehfoz nai hai, parday mai lipti hui aurat mehfoz nai hai, qabar mai kafan mai murda aurat mehfoz nai hai. Tou sawal ye hai keh phir hamre muhafiz kon hen?!
Posting as received.
A guy has shared this, "My Qari Sahab, who was my father’s best friend, used to make me put my hand in his trousers. For two years I couldn’t speak until I started studying more Quran ‘Para’s’ to finish it. I was 12 y/o that time."
A guy has shared this, "My Qari Sahab, who was my father’s best friend, used to make me put my hand in his trousers. For two years I couldn’t speak until I started studying more Quran ‘Para’s’ to finish it. I was 12 y/o that time."
"From age 6-10, my father’s cousin who was 10-15 elder than me, abused me physically & would hit me when I resisted, I was so scared & on the top of it, my parents didn’t have a healthy marriage so I couldn’t share it with them either."
I'm sure a lot of men have faced this too
I'm sure a lot of men have faced this too
Posted as received. From a girl:
"My Qari Shb who had good relationships with my parents, once came & I went to drawing room and he hugged me and rubbed myself against him. I still get shudders."
"My Qari Shb who had good relationships with my parents, once came & I went to drawing room and he hugged me and rubbed myself against him. I still get shudders."
"My school principal's son once took me in a closed door and hugged me and started rubbing himself, I couldn't comprehend what it was. 5 mins later some noise came from outside and he said 'jao.'
Posting as received:
At the age of 11 my mother and i were in market shopping for clothes and this shopkeeper kept the kapra on me to show my mother if it looks good. He instantly felt my breast. And some other day in the same market another shopkeeper felt my thighs.
At the age of 11 my mother and i were in market shopping for clothes and this shopkeeper kept the kapra on me to show my mother if it looks good. He instantly felt my breast. And some other day in the same market another shopkeeper felt my thighs.
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"One of cousin used to pick me and his sisters up from school he used to drop me in the end & used to grab my chest and forcefully kiss me I KNEW IT WAS ALL WRONG he used to forcefully grab me whenever he got a chance and I was too scared to tell my parents."
"One of cousin used to pick me and his sisters up from school he used to drop me in the end & used to grab my chest and forcefully kiss me I KNEW IT WAS ALL WRONG he used to forcefully grab me whenever he got a chance and I was too scared to tell my parents."
