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ay so, the other day in couples therapy she told us that in addition to asking, "how was your day," it is good practice to also communicate our expectations for the remainder of the day. and for the listener to respond with whether those expectations can be met.
i.e.
"How was your day? Is there anything I can do for you tonight in light of how your day went?" (the ask)
"Shit was trash. I really need like an hour alone to decompress, and for you to get food. Can we talk later?...etc." (the expectation)
"Bet" (the answer)
"How was your day? Is there anything I can do for you tonight in light of how your day went?" (the ask)
"Shit was trash. I really need like an hour alone to decompress, and for you to get food. Can we talk later?...etc." (the expectation)
"Bet" (the answer)
Instead of just ASSUMING what the other needs, or ASSUMING whether your partner can even meet your needs in that moment. We been together for so long, we assume so much. tweaking the littlest things in how we communicate makes the biggest impact.
if therapy has taught me anything it's that communicating is not som'n you inherently become better at over time. it take practice and guidance/reflection and more practice. I be in that ho blown away every time lol.
I'm boosting this thread again, because I think it's been invaluable. and we are still trying to be intentional about doing it, so it's at the forefront of my mind.
