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I had a brother message me this morning explaining how his girl don’t trust him anymore because she found naked pictures and explicit text messages in his phone... he was wondering if I’ve ever dealt with that and what he can do to regain her trust. Well....
First and foremost, I have dealt with that before. When me and my wife first started talking/dating, she was scrolling through my iPad which was connected to my iPhone so all the messages were popping up. After she read them, I was in deep shit. She ended up leaving.
Not gonna lie, that was THE first time I’ve ever prayed to God with tears rolling down my eyes lol. This was the first woman I loved DEEPLY enough to see the possibility of marriage. But I was on stupid time. Long story short, I’m happily married but here’s what I’ve learned...
1. Don’t make excuses for your action bro. Own up to it. Even if you didn’t smash, it’s still considered cheating. You just did it mentally. And it’s not just about telling her the truth. You gotta tell YOURSELF the truth that you be on some stupid type time.
And to keep it real, if the shawty you did smash or was about to smash don’t even equal up to your wife at home, YOU DEFINITELY on some stupid type time. And I’m only telling you this because I love you bro. Ain’t no side 
worth putting dirt on your girl name!
worth putting dirt on your girl name!
2. Let your girl have time to herself. Don’t try to press the issue. You already messed up. Own up to the situation, apologize and let her have space. Don’t try to make demands when you’re the one who created the mess. The ball is now in her court because your words mean nothing
3. Have a SOLUTION in place for when that time comes where she’s ready to talk. Apologies don’t mean nothing. Only actions carry weight. Tell her how your plans on how you intend to operate as man moving forward, how you’ll regain her trust and love. SOLUTIONS bro. No fluff!
4. Unfollow every naked chick on your instagram ASAP. You gotta be honest with yourself and realize that you have a problem. And you ain’t gonna get no better by seeing chicks twerking on your feed all day. You gonna be right back where you started. CLEAR YOUR MIND ASAP!
5. Put boundaries in place. In order to be disciplined, you gotta have rules for your life. One of the rules I put in place for myself is that if I’m hanging out with my homies, I gotta leave by a certain time and go home. And I don’t drink. I need a CLEAR MIND.
Y’all might think this is extreme. But just look at Kevin Hart situation. The enemy can GET anybody at anytime. He just gotta catch you slipping once. I don’t leave room for error. I’m a human. I love my wife. I love sex. I love fun. Without rules, that love won’t be enough 
