Self love is not just cutting toxic people from your life, but also cutting ties with the version of yourself who allowed that relationship to continue for as long as it did. Playing the victim will only blind you to your own flaws, and create unilateral misery/toxic cycles.

Toxic relationships create changes you don’t choose. Healing is about creating changes you do choose. If you spend your entire life thinking “toxic people messed me up and that’s why I am the way I am” you are choosing self-sabotage, and allowing their wrong to define you.

When you get in a very deep and highly toxic relationship, your body, mind, and soul is not your own. You feel disjointed, ripped from your true self and sanity. It becomes very hard to differentiate between the sound of your intuition guiding you and your traumas misleading you.

Trapped trauma in your body has a life of its own. When you internalize the abuser, and the abusive acts, you remain spiritually bonded to them. If you would like to discuss further about how you are attracting, reliving, and recreating that abuse, over and over again, DM me.

Trapped trauma also makes you physiologically addicted to abuse. This explains why going no contact feels like you are coming off a drug. https://twitter.com/theoraciewisdom/status/1217159766772015104?s=21

A trauma bond occurs when the abused person seeks consolation from the same person that’s abusing them. They want the person that’s hurting them to also heal them; and when they do try to leave, they feel physically and emotionally distressed.

Cutting contact with toxic people will transform your life. At first, it feels miserable. Like you’re going cold turkey from an addiction. But as time goes on, you begin to develop self-respect, boundaries, and true friendships.

Instead of running around absorbing and forgiving everything, you spend time with people who do not behave in a way that requires constant explaining to begin with. This freedom allows you to emit your own frequency and enables your spirit to thrive.