As promised, time for #Thread on Consent & Harassment for Dummies!This one's more detailed as a lot of men(& womxn) fail to understand the basic concept of what is Consent or Harassment!Wokest of wokes have been called out in this mini #MeToo wave. I won't use big words! Promise!

1.Understand that harassment is the IMPACT of your actions on the victim. Your intentions DON'T matter if the victim felt violated. If they say you crossed a line,you HAVE!It may not have been your intention,you may have not realized it,but you did.Acknowledge & apologise for it

2.Boundaries- I'm well aware this is SM platform, we interact, make, friends even with people from various age groups and genders. Hell, I know
& have seen everyone flirt with everyone on this platform. MAINTAIN BOUNDARIES. Gentle reminder: we have kids as Young as 15 here!

Also this is a Platform where people post unfiltered thoughts because for a lot of us it's a SAFE SPACE. Let it be that please. HOW to maintain boundaries? Simple. Most minors esp have their ages in their bios. THINK before commenting something inappropriate.

What might be ok to say to an adult may NOT be okay to say to a kid. A 16 yr old could tweet about sex, as a 22 yr old if you respond something flirty - NOT OKAY! She's 24 you're 28-OKAY. She's 16, you're 20-NOT OKAY! Dynamics matter!You're being Creepy, inappropriate, predatory!

It's not that hard to ask their age, Ik for a fact a lot of men I follow here are younger to me, I'm pretty open on talking about taboo topics+I'm as affectionate in DMs as I'm on TL. 1st thing I did was ask his age. It's THAT simple guys!

I knew he's an adult & of legal age. I'm 29,it'd be WRONG on so many levels if I'm flirty/affectionate towards him of he'd been 20-22 yr old.If she's 20 you're in 30s,DON'T flirt. It's predatory, even if its consensual. YOU'RE the adult, it's you job to take an informed decision.

3. Safe Space-For a lot of us this is a safe space. We post about sex, horny, thirsty tweets, masturbation, fantasies, and what not. It is NOT AN INVITATION for you to flirt with us/slide in our DMs/or send us dick pics, or sexual messages etc. We just here to rant ffs

4. If a girl’s on Tinder/posts pics on social media in revealing clothes, doesn’t mean you can send her dick pics to her or ask her for nudes saying “She’s anyway showing her body”. She could post a pic in bikini and she still CAN refuse nudes. You are NOT entitled to her body.

Unless you're friends with the said women, you DO NOT get to post random shit on her pics. If it's a minor, you DO NOT call them hot/sexy or comment something flirty. BOUNDARIES! If you've not interacted with them/she doesn't follow you don't comment such shit.

Women posting opinions/pics etc on SM don't give you the right to comment any BS on their pics. It's harassment. We don't do it for you! Abusing, passing sleazy comments and then saying "hey it's a public platform, she should know". NO. Just say you're a creep and FO!

Even if a girl has put up pics on social media, you have ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHT whatsoever to take SS and circulate it in your group & body-shame/slut-shame her. You can’t say she has anyway posted on social media. It’s a fucked up logic. It’s harassment!

Just because her DMs are open, doesn't mean you can DM her provocative messages, dick pics, etc. A lot of us have DMs open for various purposes from business to giving someone a safe space! Open DMs are NOT AN INVITATION! And ffs of you don't receive a reply, leave her alone!

If she doesn't respond to your DMs and then you come into every mention of hers to give you attention, is also harassment. Calling her names for not giving you attention is harassment. Women DON'T OWE you any attention. Neither in DMs nor on TL. All you'll get is blocked.

5. Dick pics- KEEP THEM IN YOUR PANTS! 1stly there's absolutely nothing appealing about your dick. 2. It's not even pleasing to look at. At what point from taking the pic, looking at it & then pressing send does it make you think we'd love to see your dick? News flash:

I mean all you gonna get out of it is get blocked. Ik the only reason y'all even send those pics is coz yk it makes us uncomfortable.Y'all enjoy harassing us. Y'all love reducing us to just a Vagina. News flash, the only hole your dick is getting is the one you create with your

6. DMs-PLEASE, do not initiate conversations with “Hey Babe”, “Hi Dear”, “Hey Sexy”, “Hi Beautiful”. We don’t like it. We hate it. Because we are NOT your babe/baby/sexy/etc. Learn how to talk to a woman with respect than treating her as a sexual object to satisfy your desires!

Please DO NOT DM a woman immediately after following her on social media, esp if she’s not following you and you’ve never interacted with her on the public platform. She'll most likely to be creeped out & WILL block you. Just don’t DM a woman if you don’t know her. Just don’t.

If you still go ahead & send her DMs (like an idiot) & she doesn’t respond, LEAVE HER THE FUCK ALONE. She doesn’t WANT to respond to you. DO NOT keep messaging her, asking her to reply to you. She won’t. Oh, and she will also block and report you for harassment.

7. Flirting- I know we young, carefree etc. There's flirting on TL as well as in DMs. Gauge the comfort/intensity level. Are you really that serious in your flirting that you'd sext/share intimate images? If unsure ASK! Fucking ASK her if she'd be comfortable with it or not.

Whether it's sexual innuendos, heavy flirting, sexting, even nudes. Don't just surprise her with a dick pic or a heavily sexual comment. More often than not, she'll laugh it off & back off. It's NOT an indication to continue. Get the hint that you made her uncomfortable.

Asking for nudes to random girls (irrespective of their ages) who you’ve NEVER met (nor are going to tbh) or spoken to before is harassment. How can you even expect a girl you’ve never spoken to send you nudes? Are you dumb? All it will earn you is a block and report button.

If a girl’s chatting with you, doesn’t mean she’s going to send nudes to you. DO NOT ask her for them unless you BOTH have been talking intimately. If a girl is casually flirting but says she’s uncomfortable sexting and you still send sexual messages, it’s harassment.

Understand the difference between casual flirting and harassment. A girl flirting with you may not want to sleep with you. If you’re flirting & want to move to sexting/nudes/having sex but she refuses or she’s not sure. STOP. It’s a NO! Anything other than a yes is a NO!

If she sexts but doesn’t send nudes when you ask her, understand she consented to sexting NOT nudes. If she says yes to date/meet you. She consented to a date and not sleeping with you. Her yes to you for meet up is NOT a yes for sex.

8. Professionalism: Passing sexual remarks, commenting on their body parts, their dressing & saying it makes them look hot/sexy in a PROFESSIONAL environment is harassment. The women come there to work & not to satisfy your eyes! Respect their work. Respect them. The deserve it.

Asking for sexual favors/dates etc by threatening someone’s career is again harassment. If it’s business party and you’re flirting with a colleague and she says she’s uncomfortable. STOP! Her uncomfort is a NO. Back off. DO NOT continue. It’s harassment.

Invading her personal space, inappropriate touching, inappropriate commenting on her looks/body/dress, passing sexual innuendos, sending graphic sexual content or sending sexual messages to colleague when you know her only PROFESSIONALLY is harassment.

9. FRIENDZONE: First of all there's no such thing as a friendzone. It's a concept created by the so called nice men, who think women owe them sex I return of them being the 'nice guys' & treating her nicely i.e. like a frikking human being. Sorry but you don't get an award for it

Women don't owe you sex! If the only reason you befriended a girl so that she'd sleep with you, YOU were the one with wrong intentions. YOU treated friendship as a means to having sex with her it doesn't work that way.

It's completely possible y'all lightly flirt as friends but relationship remains platonic. It's also possible that y'all might've hit it off while chatting but once y'all meet, one of you realize y'all are better off as friends. You can't blame the other person for leading you on

As much as physical desirability/attraction is important so is connection. A lot of people CANNOT do ONS/hookups. Even if casual they need a connection. They need a common ground, something they can talk about. Something they connect on. Compatibility from BOTH parties matter.

10. CONSENT: Everything requires ENTHUSIASTIC Consent from BOTH parties. Flirting, sexting, sexual innuendos, sharing intimate pictures, nudes,physical touches,bases,making out, sex even! ASK FOR CONSENT AT EVERY STAGE!It's not awkward. It's not weird!It doesn't 'ruin' the moment

The major reason men don't ask for Consent coz they know it puts the choice in the woman's hands and she CAN reject him, and his chances of getting his way will go down to a big fat ZERO. Imho, asking for Consent is HELLA ATTRACTIVE! It signifies you CARE about what she wants!

As mentioned earlier her consent to meet you=/=sleeping with you. She consented to meeting you ONLY. Any physical contact requires consent. Learn to read body languages. If she looks uncomfortable she IS uncomfortable. You're crossing a line.

If she’s making out with you but refuses to sex. STOP. She consented to making out and not having sex with you. You coaxing her, guilting her, into sleeping with you is harassment. It's NOT voluntary consent. It's not ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT.

If a woman says No (whether you’re in a relationship with her or not) and you still go ahead and gaslight, manipulate, physically and/or mentally torture her, force yourself on her/force her to have sex with you, it is ASSAULT and not just harassment.

She did not consent to sex with you, you forced it out of her. You tortured it out of her. It wasn’t voluntary. Even when she has consented to sex, WHAT kind of sex? You may be fan of rough sex, she may not be. KINKS that you're interested in she may not be. Talk about this stuff

If she agreed to sex and you don't go at her pace and comfort level, it's crossing boundaries. Communicate. Even if it's a ONS/Hookup/Casual. Whatever it is talk about what are your boundaries. Come up with a safe word. Any minute she uses it, stop right there!

If you’ve had a past & are no longer in a relationship, you cannot keep groping/touching inappropriately & force her to have sex with you again because you’ve been together in the past. Ditto if you’ve had sex in the past.Having sex once IS NOT consent for having sex every time!

Yes! Consent is required Everytime! NOTHING is an excuse for "she was asking for it" unless she specifically asked for it. Not her clothes, not her sexts, not her pics, not her opinions, not her tweets, not her language. NONE of these are "asking for it". Just say you're a Rapist

UNBELIEVABLE that I've to add but if a girl drinks with you its NOT easy pass.Groping her while she’s drunk is MOLESTATION & having sex with her while she’s inebriated or passed out is fucking RAPE! Coz there was NO CONSENT. You took advantage of her drunk state i.e. RAPED HER

If she consents to have PROTECTED sex with you, you cannot force her to have raw sex. If you agree to her condition of wearing a condom and during the course of sex remove it WITHOUT her knowledge, you’ve committed STEALTHING which is SEXUAL ASSAULT!

Yes! This shit is so common that it has a name!Coz men are fucking ready to compromise on the health & safety of their partner for 10 secs of their pleasure!
Under Section 375 of Indian Penal Code, Stealthing is equivalent of RAPE. Because it’s not the sex the woman consented to

Understand that ANYTHING other than ENTHUSIASTIC YES is a NO. If she says “I don’t know”, “I don’t think so”, “I’m uncomfortable with this”, “I don’t think I’m ready for this”, “I think we’re going too fast”. STOP right there.These are all variations of NO.Please understand that!

Y'all very easily say "hey she was flirting/ touching/leading me on/there were signs of her being interested". Then HOW TF can't you read body languages where she's clearly uncomfortable,or she freezes, or she tries to avoid any physical touch, or she cringes.These are silent NOs

If after all of this if you’re STILL unsure of whether its a Yes or No, ASK her, she’s right there. Don’t be that jerk who assumes her Yes is hidden in her No. This is real life, not Bollywood movie ffs! Ask her and ensure whatever you do is WITH her ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT.

I'm gonna be ending the thread here for now. These are all the points that I could think of. If I come up with more I will keep adding them. If you think I've missed out on any, please feel free to add them in replies.
For now ciao!